18 week Sono - told boy - any possible way could be a girl?? Swollen labia? thoughts?

So....I have two boys. I'm 19 weeks pregnant. Went in for a check-up at 17 weeks and begged my midwife to do an ultrasound. The equipment is older and she told me she was not very good at operating the machine. So, if she were to do it to not get my hopes. up. After looking she saw no penis and claimed she saw three lines. She guessed girl. Of course I got my hopes up... Four days later I go to my gender ultrasound (at another location with higher tech equipment and actual ultrasound techs) to be told boy!!! Clearly there is something in between the legs. Ultrasound tech and doctor said boy. :\ Is there any possible way this could be a girl still? I've been reading about swollen labias but I think I'm wishfully thinking...Thoughts???

looks like a boy to me im almost 22 wks with what they THINK is my 4th boy! heres my scan, this is what a swollen labia could look like, tech is also saying it could be a underdeveloped scrotum =[ we dont know what our baby is but your is def a boy!

Thanks. I know I sound crazy. It obviously looks like a penis, lol. Even though my midwife warned me to not go off of what she said I'm so confused that she didn't see a penis AND three lines. That's what's throwing me off. :\ I know I should just be happy. A baby is a blessing and it is healthy which is what really matters. But this being my last pregnancy I was hoping for a girl. I hope you have another sono soon to figure it out! Good luck!

And btw yours in my opinion looks like a girl! :)

 I think BOTH of your pics look like a boy!

Good Luck! 

Yeah, I don't think theres any hope for me. My hope was coming from the fact that this was the earliest gender ultrasound I've gotten (both my boys were done at 20 weeks +) and my midwife guessed girl. Because this pregnancy is considered close to my last one they recommended I get an ultrasound at 28 and 32 weeks which I will definitely be doing!

I agree with dreaming, both pics look

krystal251:

I agree with dreaming, both pics look

Yep, agreed!

 definitely a boy. looks just like my 3 bios u/s pics. :) 

Thanks ladies! Appreciate the input :)

I have to say boy as well. I know how much you want to hear girl and i know it stings a little to hear everyone saying boy but you will be ok:) I still have issues believing this is indeed not my girl lol...went to a u/s cuz of a fall and saw three lines and not once saw penis or scrotum and I swore that had to mean they were wrong even though I have a confirmation boy pic from the last u/s lol....we cant help it lol. But congrats on your little boy I will be very surprised and so excited if you hear differently after that pic lol and would def give me hope lmao...which i just need to get over cuz i only have 9/8 weeks left lol

Boy

lillithrivan:

I have to say boy as well. I know how much you want to hear girl and i know it stings a little to hear everyone saying boy but you will be ok:) I still have issues believing this is indeed not my girl lol...went to a u/s cuz of a fall and saw three lines and not once saw penis or scrotum and I swore that had to mean they were wrong even though I have a confirmation boy pic from the last u/s lol....we cant help it lol. But congrats on your little boy I will be very surprised and so excited if you hear differently after that pic lol and would def give me hope lmao...which i just need to get over cuz i only have 9/8 weeks left lol

To be honest before I posted the pic I knew it to be true. I'm having so many mixed emotions about this! I have two beautiful amazing boys that I cherish more than anything. After my two boys I was sure we were done having children and was perfectly content with what I had. Then, surprise! Lol. So, this time I wanted a girl. After hoping for a girl and hearing it might be a girl, that shot my hopes higher. When they told my "Boy" all I could do was cry. I literally cried through the rest of the ultrasound and rest of the day. It hit me HARD. For a few reasons. I know this is our last baby and therefore was my "last chance" to have a girl. I love my boys more than anything but I think about the bond between a mother and daughter especially the one between my mom and I and believe there is that different dynamic which is what I think I'm mourning. At the same time I feel SO guilty for feeling this way and know I should be happy my little boy is healthy which I am. But can't help having these other emotions. I know I will get over it. I think it's just still fresh off of the appointment. I think like you, I need to just come to terms with it and move on. It's actually been good for me to come to these forums knowing other women feel the same way :) It helps :) Thanks for listening!

And thanks! Congrats to you too!

Those are my thoughts EXACTLY!!  I also have 2 boys, # 3 due in January, and anatomy scan is on Thursday.... I'm thinking I'll burst into tears either way -- girl being tears of joy, but this is also my last shot for a girl... I'm also super close with my mom and can't imagine not sharing that same bond with a daughter. So I get what you're feeling... But then I think about how I was disappointed after hearing #2 was a boy, and the second I laid eyes on him it was instant love.  I wouldn't trade either of them for the world!!  and my two boys together are so close and have such a special bond, that I know they'd be just as close with another brother... Anyway, thinking of you!! You're not alone in how you feel!