Getting past the disappointment

I have one beautiful little boy and find out next Monday what I am having this time. I have a really strong desire for a girl this time around and I am terrified that I will be disappointed if this baby is a boy and I hate feeling this way. Everytime I see a baby girl announcement (which seems to be everyone I know lately) I get a wash of jealousy come over me and it's really upsetting me to feel this way. Last time I really didn't care so this is all new to me and I want to work through it before my scan but not sure how to go about it. I would never love a little boy any less, my heart just craves a daughter and don't know how to deal with these unwanted feelings. Any advice or experiences appreciated.

I feel the same. I am 12 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child and I already have a 3 year old son. I had my 12 week scan yesterday and based on the 'nub theory' the sonographer guessed this is another boy. He gave me a 60% accuracy but he seemed pretty confident. I am heartbroken, I know I will not love this baby any less but I have always wanted a daughter. And I really didn't want more than 2 children so looks like no girls for me. I hope you got the results you wanted :)

The heart wants what it wants...I don't think its specific to just having the desired gender....you can't control it no matter how much you would like to. It doesn't make you selfish or ungrateful, its just life. I think we get what we are meant to, doesn't always make us happy but it is what it is, you just have to try and make the best of it. No matter what you'll have a beautiful family  :)

"You cant always get what you want, BUT if you try sometimes you just might find...

YOU GET WHAT YOU NEED"

 I am in the same position too.  I have two boys and I find out in Sept what I'm having (if I decide to find out).  I never cared with the other two, I was happy to have two boys but this is different cause it's my last child.  The only thing I can say is prepare yourself.  It was already determined at conception and it is what it is.  Prepare yourself for the possibility that it could be a boy and picture your life with your new little boy.  That way you are somewhat prepared and if it turns out to be a girl it will be a pleasant surprise.  GL, I hope you hear girl!

HopeFaith:

"You cant always get what you want, BUT if you try sometimes you just might find...

YOU GET WHAT YOU NEED"

exactly! i didn't want 5 girls. my dream family was 2 boys. we swayed and failed several times. i saved up for pgd but instead went on vacation. i buried my daughter and felt so much guilt for crying like a baby when i heard "its another girl" but now that i have these 5 girls i can't imagine my life without them. i don't want any of them to be boys. they are perfect just the way they are. you wil feel the same way the second you see your child for the first time. congrats

I just had my third boy less then 2 months ago. I really thought he was going to be a girl. I swayed and all my symptoms pointed to girl. They told us pretty early on (15 weeks) it was our third boy. I was really upset and felt devastated. Over the months of my pregnancy I just embraced that he was a boy. I thought of a name immediately, which I never could do for our first 2. Because our first two were surprises at birth I wanted to find out ahead of time with this one. With my first I really wanted a boy and was convinced that is what I was having and I was right. With my second I convinced myself he was a girl.. and he very much is not a girl! I was so depressed at his delivery when they announced boy.. and stayed that way for atleast 2 weeks. I just didn't want to bring another baby into the world like that. I am so glad I found out ahead of time. Our youngest little baby is so sweet and I did not have any of the same emotions that I had with our second. I really wanted 3 kids.. I find myself determined to have a 4th. I know that in that I really am still not over not having a girl. But the difference now is that I am pretty convinced we'd just have a 4th boy, and it's more over this baby is supposed to be our last and I'm not sure if I want that to be the case. I found that all my feeling of GD were really strong when I was pregnant.. and it just killed me to learn of people having girls or being pregnant with girls. But once our 3rd boy was born I really don't feel that. A friend of mine who just had her second, a girl after a boy, when I said I may have a 4th said to me.. oh so you are going to have 4 boys? And it really came off so condescending.. it's like hey, i'm glad you have your boy and girl.. and that's great.. but people are not better then you if they have pigeon pairs.. and their life with children are not going to be more complete then yours necessarily. my two older sons are amazing together.. these kids are the best of best friends you can every imagine. I know they are young, 4 and 2.5 BUT this bond is not going anywhere.. and I think it's so awesome they will always have each other. I can picture them as adults and having that each other will be incredible. IF you are having a second son you will love him so much and you will never be able to imagine your life any other way. Either way it will all be good! GL on Monday!