I just had my third boy less then 2 months ago. I really thought he was going to be a girl. I swayed and all my symptoms pointed to girl.
They told us pretty early on (15 weeks) it was our third boy. I was really upset and felt devastated.
Over the months of my pregnancy I just embraced that he was a boy. I thought of a name immediately, which I never could do for our first 2.
Because our first two were surprises at birth I wanted to find out ahead of time with this one. With my first I really wanted a boy and was convinced that is what I was having and I was right. With my second I convinced myself he was a girl.. and he very much is not a girl! I was so depressed at his delivery when they announced boy.. and stayed that way for atleast 2 weeks. I just didn't want to bring another baby into the world like that.
I am so glad I found out ahead of time. Our youngest little baby is so sweet and I did not have any of the same emotions that I had with our second.
I really wanted 3 kids.. I find myself determined to have a 4th. I know that in that I really am still not over not having a girl. But the difference now is that I am pretty convinced we'd just have a 4th boy, and it's more over this baby is supposed to be our last and I'm not sure if I want that to be the case.
I found that all my feeling of GD were really strong when I was pregnant.. and it just killed me to learn of people having girls or being pregnant with girls. But once our 3rd boy was born I really don't feel that. A friend of mine who just had her second, a girl after a boy, when I said I may have a 4th said to me.. oh so you are going to have 4 boys? And it really came off so condescending.. it's like hey, i'm glad you have your boy and girl.. and that's great.. but people are not better then you if they have pigeon pairs.. and their life with children are not going to be more complete then yours necessarily.
my two older sons are amazing together.. these kids are the best of best friends you can every imagine. I know they are young, 4 and 2.5 BUT this bond is not going anywhere.. and I think it's so awesome they will always have each other. I can picture them as adults and having that each other will be incredible. IF you are having a second son you will love him so much and you will never be able to imagine your life any other way. Either way it will all be good!
GL on Monday!