I am a woman
who was a lot like you. I hate girly stuff and was a tomboy from day one. I
love to work with tools, play video games for hours and not a chick flick in
sight in my house. I have always felt out of sorts around other females and have
a much easier time talking to the guys.
When I found
out I was going to have a daughter I was crushed. I did not think I could be a
good girl mom. I was worried that somehow my lack of femininity would cause her
to feel as out of sorts with herself as I did when I was younger.
Boy was I
wrong. She has taught me a lesson or two
actually. She is her own wonderful
person. NOT the person I was afraid she
might be. I was projecting my fear and
my insecurities onto this wonderful child who was going to be herself and love
me no matter what. Your son is going to
be himself, just like any future daughter you may have could be a beer
drinking, sports watching, meat eating all American girl. My oldest boy loves to play soccer and
baseball. But he also loves to sit with
me on the porch while eating an ice-cream and talk about movies, TV, Science,
relationships and even sometimes just about the weather for hours and hours.
It is more than
ok to have fears over being a parent, the first time or any time. But remember that they are your fears, not
the reality of this sweet child who will look at you to be nothing more than
his dad. And he will love you for who
Oh and by the way my daughter loves pink and tea parties and dance class. And becasue she love it I love it thru her. Yes you may never LOVE sports but you may love watching your son play them. Or he may want to try art classes or be into acting. I realized I dont have to be someone else to make my daughter happy. All I have to do is love her for who she is and she loves me for for that and loves who I am.