I think I'm also struggling a little because I just had a hysterectomy 13 days ago. My uterus is gone; I will never have a chance to have another baby, and after 4 boys I will never have a chance at having a daughter. Before my hysterectomy I felt done having kids. I don't regret having my hysterectomy and being done; I personally don't think I could ever start over because starting over with my 4th child has been hard on me and my family does feel complete. It's just sad. The uterus that I carried all of my babies in is gone, just tossed in the trash.
*Hugs for you* Sorry to hear about your hysterectomy. I can understand that it would be painful to have a part of you that gave life to your children is no longer a part of you, but I'm sure there was a good reason why you had to have it done. On the plus side, congratulations for never having to endure another period again! That in itself is a good thing, right?
I hope you are healing both physically and emotionally. Take care.