I know someone who is putting baby up for adoption because it's a boy.

 Horrible story... but she might change her mind. There was a lady on here who wanted to adopt her daughter out but after the baby was born she could no longer do it. In that case she will break the adoptive parents heart... I hope she makes a decision that is right for everyone.

I think I'm also struggling a little because I just had a hysterectomy 13 days ago. My uterus is gone; I will never have a chance to have another baby, and after 4 boys I will never have a chance at having a daughter. Before my hysterectomy I felt done having kids. I don't regret having my hysterectomy and being done; I personally don't think I could ever start over because starting over with my 4th child has been hard on me and my family does feel complete. It's just sad. The uterus that I carried all of my babies in is gone, just tossed in the trash.

*Hugs for you* Sorry to hear about your hysterectomy. I can understand that it would be painful to have a part of you that gave life to your children is no longer a part of you, but I'm sure there was a good reason why you had to have it done. On the plus side, congratulations for never having to endure another period again! That in itself is a good thing, right?

I hope you are healing both physically and emotionally. Take care.