I understand, to a point, what people are saying here, but I also believe that when I see a pregnant woman, my first instinct tells me that she is not going through a difficult time like being ill in a hospital. I think that most people, including myself assume pregnant women are overjoyed with the fact that they are pregnant. That was my point earlier. I do not think we as the public would ever talk to a pregnant woman like she was lame or ill or even dying. So I guess my point is, if you do have an issue, it is totally ok, but just politely tell them you have an issue. It's not their fault for discussing your pregnancy as most people are more than happy to discuss it.
That's all I meant before, sorry if I offended anyone, I just believe that 99% of the population see joy in pregnancy and should not be blamed for wanting to talk about it.
I get what you're saying. I am a very happy pregnant person and I think most of us are! If the public just looked at us and assumed we were happy, said congrats, and went on their way, many of us wouldn't be here to be completely honest.
And to the individuals who discuss or have discussed my pregnancies with the same joy I feel about being pregnant, I say talk away & yeah, you can even touch my belly if you really want to (but only for a second).
But the problem is, the public DOES make rude & hurtful comments such as:
Oh, ANOTHER boy!!! I am soooo sorry!
Oh, poor Dad, guess you won't be giving him a son after all!
UGH, I could NEVER live with a house full of boys/girls! That would be awful! I would have just stopped at 2 if I were you!
WHY are having a 3rd??? Isn't that a little much? Oh, you must want a daugher/ son... Well I hope you get it this time around! I would hate to see you have to go for a 4th!!!
Even a simple comment like: "Still trying for that girl/boy, huh" made in front of your children by someone who doesn't even know you is just rude!!! I can handle comments like that if my boys aren't with me, but if they are what does that say to my sons? It says, you aren't good enough! Yes, I can do damage control, but still that stranger who could have just left us alone, just had to open his or her mouth and plant that seed in my child's head. That is just unacceptable in my book! Sometimes people just don't think before they speak and to those people I say, please just don't talk!!!
I know if you've never experienced it, it seems like that sort of thing wouldn't happen, but sadly it does. Many posts are made on this very board about comments like this made by strangers and even friends and family members!
p.s. You didn't offend me! We're all here to share opinions!
I just didn't want you to think that the majority of us here are unhappy with our children, the truth couldn't be further from that