anyone else get a gender determination around 16 weeks?

HI, Our due date is May 30th.. at 15 weeks 5 days we had a NT scan and the tech told us that we are having a boy. She didn't give us any potty shots.. but we did see something between the legs. I know that this is very likely my 3rd boy, but I can't stop shaking the feeling that the baby is a girl. I had so many dreams about a girl and even though I've resigned to the fact that it is our third boy I keep catching myself thinking about the different things we need for the baby once "she" is here.. ie girl rug, clothes etc. I researched a lot of things online and read so many stories about wrong gender given at 16 weeks. Including our pediatrician we just saw! She told me how they told her the third was a boy (their third boy) and on delivery day out came a girl. Just wondering if there is any reason to drive myself crazy until our 21 week scan (3 weeks away). I read some studies that say at 15 weeks it's really hard to determine gender and the best guess is boy. But honestly, it seems like so many people find out at that time and it is accurate. It didn't help that all my symptoms were different this pregnancy from my 2 boys and I seem to be carrying different even.. but I know that happens to others too. I don't know, just wondering who else got gender identified at their 16 week and how confident are you feeling about it? Thanks so much!!!

I got a boy determination with ds3 @ 15wks 6 days.  Can you go get a private scan before your 21st week? Good luck 

Okay.. and was definitely accurate for you;). I think I'm just driving myself crazy, I know the chances of it being wrong are so slim. So weird I felt so different with this one.. plus the vivid dreams I had never had before with the other pregnancies... guess i just really wanted it to be so convinced myself. The morning sickness I had never had definitely threw me too! I was thinking of looking for a place for a private scan.. but hoping I can just stop obsessing over this, since the past 2 weeks have just been brutal. I am excited to have a little boy too.. just hard to think of never having a daughter.. and 4 just seems so out of the question. I'd have to get pregnant almost immediately and I already have a almost 4 year old, and a 2 1/4... so I've been pregnant kind of nonstop it feels like. I nursed them both forever too.. so I really had a 3 month break in between nursing before trying and then got pregnant in 2 months. I think I just have to wrap my head around the fact that I won't have that experience.. plus imagine if we went for 4 and it was a 4th boy.. I think I would just be so upset with myself for pushing for another try and feeling gd again. Plus, my husband was so shocked I didn't weigh the 50/50 factor more seriously I think unless we did ht he would say no way out of fear that it would be another boy and I would just be upset. I always wanted 3 kids, so 3 feels right.. I just imagined 1 daughter :(.

Sounds like I wrote this! I have 2 boys, this pregnancy is VERY different, I swore it was a girl but just had my 15 week 3 day scan and was told boy. I posted a pic here and a few people says it looks like swollen girl parts. Now I'm going crazy until my 20 week scan on January 24! I wish u got a pic... I hope we both hear girl!! I can't shake this feeling either. I can't accept that it's a boy it's a weird feeling...

Was about 15+5 with ds2 and I felt exactly the same as you. In fact my desire for a girl was so strong I wished I hadn't had the scan as I didn't want to believe it. At 20 weeks ds2 was lying awkwardly so they couldn't tell me. I called the private place who were happy to scan me again for free telling me the technician had a 100% record. I realised at that point I just had to accept it but wished I'd held out till at least 20 weeks, it's hard letting go of your girl dream so early in the pregnancy. Sending hugs x

You did, really? I know, the lady who did our scan was just awful. She was very forceful on telling us the gender. We never found out with our other two. We were going to find out with this one but wanted to maybe wait, or put it in an envelope.. and she was super pushy. I'm so confused. I read on about.com that usually at 15 weeks it's not that easy to tell and the best guess is always boy. But I don't want to hold out false hope just to get crushed again at 21 weeks. I was super surprised that of the 3 photos she gave us she didn't give us the potty shot. I grilled my husband after asking him if he saw a "Turtle" or a circle underneath etc.. but he just can't remember now. His coworker is pregnant and her best friend is as well.. turns out the friend was told boy at 16 weeks, then girl at 20.. they were crushed. it's their first, they wanted a boy.. they went out bought so many things for him etc.. and then found out a month later, oops.. I had no idea there were so many stories of mistaken gender.. but at the same time, seems the majority are pretty right. I'll have to see if I can find your post of your scan.. I saw so many mistaken ones in the past 2 weeks. I just bought a couple gender neutral things today that lean more toward boy.. just to get myself a little more, i don't even know.. I mean I'm excited for the baby to come regardless.. I just need to stop thinking the baby may be a girl.. if you know what I mean!

Ruby_Red.. so true.. I thought that the night before we went, that if it wasn't a girl then I was giving up on some months of dreaming. I did have some pretty bad gd after my second son was born though, and was afraid would be way worse if 3 was a boy. The day of the scan I wrote a post on gd on this site.. and I definitely am not feeling as low now as that day.. I've been telling people that the U/S saw boy.. which is pretty big for me, since the week after I could't say anything like that to anyone but my mom and close friends. I think I'm just so torn about giving up the dream of having a daughter.. but having more kids just doesn't seem like the answer for that. We wanted 3, and we can continue to live where we are with 3.. with 4 it would be a whole different story. I think when I had DS2 I was afraid of all the pressure I knew I'd feel with the third. I actually wanted in an ideel, 2 boys and a girl.. but was just afraid with DS2 that meant I only had one shot. We swayed with this one, something I knew nothing of with DS2.. but I was so nervous to do o+12.. after reading all the successes with it we went for it since the previous 2 months we tried a cut off and I didn't get pregnant.. but we also went less severe with the replens, lime, hot baths.. we took it all out of the equation since we were afraid it was making us not get pregnant. I was terrified of being super big in the dead heat of summer and running after a 4 year old and 2 year old.. but now I wonder if I just would have held out and kept with all the different things and the cut off if I would have been better off for a girl outcome.

my friend just recently got a gender scan at 15-16 weeks, was told it was her second boy- went back at 19-20 weeks and was told it was 100% a girl!!!!! it very well coujld be accurate but you just never know- every baby is different and it could still be early!!!!! i hope you get what you are wishing for, best of luck and congrats!

Your last post sounds just like me! We definately don't want 4 & I am scared at being disappointed with another boy. I'm glad it has seemed slightly easier to accept this time, gives me hope. If you are concerned I would phone the clinic and see if they offer you another scan?

I think we'll just wait until 21 weeks. I have complete placenta previa on top of it.. I have a feeling we will end up getting even more ultrasounds then we want :( I asked my OB and she said that she doesn't think they have ever gotten the gender wrong at that place, and almost 16 weeks should be accurate.. but then I keep hearing all these stories so I don't know. My dh wants me to just not think about it and assume it to still be 50/50, esp after hearing all these people with wrong gender determination. I just hope I have a different tech. The way that one delivered the news, and didn't point out any specifics or give us a pic is just so annoying. I wish I had the potty shot so atleast I could see for myself how certain it is.. you know? Instead of now wondering if I can think there may be a mistake for 5 weeks!! I had a really rough first week after hearing boy.. I mean, tears, depression etc. I think now I probably am still holding on to hope there could possibly be a mistake.. but I do feel that having the 4 months to prep will help me a lot. The worst was being told it was a boy when I delivered DS2.. and I was so upset.. it was horrible. I mean here I delivered this amazing healthy beautiful baby boy and I was so depressed.. it took me a few days. I just didn't want to do that to another baby, my dh, or myself again. It's not fair to anyone. It's so amazing that we are so lucky to have gotten pregnant so easily and have healthy kids, it's not a rational feeling in a way.. but it is since there is a loss of what will never be.. and not having that experience of having a daughter/son (for those who just have girls). I think unless a person is in the same position it's really hard for them to understand. The nurse that helped deliver DS2 was horrified with me.. literally kind of screamed at me almost since it was written all over my face.. kind of like "what's wrong with you?!" said didn't you know it was 50/50.. guh. Just can't have that feeling again. Hence trying to find out and sort through the feelings ahead of time.

I had an ultrasound at 19 wks. Hubby watched when she showed the gender (she looked for less than 30 seconds and printed 2 pics) but I didn't. He told me later that night that the baby was a boy and that he was seriously shocked. I started crying my eyes out and cried for the next 2 days whenever someone asked me about it or when I thought about it. We both seriously thought this was going to be our girl. We both are still thinking its a girl. Our Dr and another tech said our ultrasound pictures were horrible. My Dr even said he wouldn't have guessed one of the pics was a gender shot if she hadn't of written "male" on it but I can see the "turtle" in the picture even though he couldn't. I have another ultrasound in the middle of Jan and I still have my hopes up that I'll hear "It's a girl". I know I'm sad and pathetic, right? I just can't help the feeling that its a girl. Even my 4 yr old said "No, mom its a girl" when I told him that the baby is a boy. FYI some nurses have no bedside manners. They suck! It's like they don't think before they speak.

I'm sorry.. i totally know what you are going through. Our 3.5 year old and 2 year old are also saying the baby is a girl.. but now that I told them the Dr. thinks it's a boy my older son will flip flop it. But before all of that he would gently pat my belly and talk about the baby always saying "she" etc. I told him but it may be a boy, and he said no.. it's a girl. But, I'm not sure if he heard me talking to my dh or mom on the phone about wanting the baby to be a girl etc. They pick up on so many things so quickly and it just takes one time for them to hear something. My gut just keeps saying girl. I am so nervous that at the 21 week U/S if I hear boy again it is going to affect me the same way it did the first time. I keep trying to just consciously say this baby is a boy... but I can't get the feeling out of my head that the baby is a girl. If I were in your shoes, I too would hold out hope. Especially since you didn't look at the screen. Did your husband see boy really clearly when he was watching the U/S? We definitely saw a large protrusion between the legs. The thing is that we never found out with our other two.. so we have no prior experience as to what we were looking at and she didn't explain anything.. just said look there.. no mistake.. boy. And moved on. I assume though if it was a girl it would be obvious.. and this very much looked like a penis. Guh. Of course, if you google enough wrong gender determination you will see plenty of 16-20 week U/S pics that clearly looked like a boy and they turned out to be less swollen 4 weeks later and be a girl. But again, the majority seems to be right on with gender determination after 15 weeks. Do you think you guys would go for #4 if this is indeed a boy? I wonder if I can let go of the chance of having a daughter if ours is indeed a boy right now. But 4 kids (and if it's 4 boys on top of it) makes me feel very overwhelmed.

I'm in the same boat. I have two boys already & praying that this was finally my little girl. Almost immediately after finding out I was pregnant I had a feeling it was a girl. Everything about this pregnancy was different from the all day nausea which I never had with my boys to the way I look & carry. Owt & chinese calendar predicted girl too & was also right for my boys. So, I just couldn't wait for my 20 wk anatomy scan & paid for a private scan at exactly 16 wks. Almost immediately she said it was ANOTHER boy! I've been so depressed that all I do is either cry or look on line for ultrasounds that were told boy but were actually girl. I try desperately to find u/s pics that resemble mine. My dh is so upset at me because I am " obssesed" about this instead of being grateful the baby is healthy. I feel horrible about it but I can't help it. I have my 20 wk scan nxt monday & even though I'm sure it's still a boy, I can't help but to hold on to the slightest hope it was wrong and they tell me it's a girl. I fantasize about it all the time along with asking God to "change his mind" & give me a girl. The thing is that I just can't accept that I'll never have a girl. I've dreamed with her my whole life & feel like I'll never feel complete without a girl. I feel like a piece of me died when I was told it was another boy. I hope on monday after my 20 week u/s I can stop obsessing & just accept it. Or even better that my dream will come through this is really my girl!

Hi Csaldana, I am so sorry. It's just awful to feel so sure and it be the total opposite. The OWT and calendars really play tricks on your mind. I even did the mayan and the babyman thing.. they were totally right for my sons and said girl for this baby.. everything said girl for this baby. I still have the 21 week US in 2 weeks, but even though I've scoured the internet and found so many people who were told boy before 16 weeks it's so unlikely that will be me. It seems that those U/S pics all seem to have a very unclear shot. Even though we don't have a copy of the potty shot my memory really seems to very clearly see a penis. I am kind of resentful though the tech just blurted out boy. I wish we had waited until the 21 week so I would not have spent weeks obsessing over if it could be wrong since it was so early. I have been all over the map. Definitely way less upset then I was the first few days. But now I just want the confirmation so I can embrace it and find a name for the baby. We never knew ahead of time with our other 2, and naming them at the hospital was super stressful.. esp DS2, since even though I knew he was a boy (the tech had hinted , and I saw his parts on the screen), I still tried to convince myself he was a girl. The worst part here is really letting go of this feeling that something is incomplete without a daughter as well. I have been telling my dh we need to think about having a 4th child and maybe doing HT.. this has really stressed him out and made him kind of depressed. He's feeling like this baby is unwanted and I am not embracing it. This is really not true. In fact, the best case at this point is if they were to tell me.. oops! It's twins you have a boy and a girl. Since now if it's suddenly a girl I'll feel like I lost my little boy. I just am not sure if I can just really never have the experience of a daughter as well. I never imagined having just boys. Never. I just assumed this baby would be a girl. And I guess that's the thing.. we swayed, all the owt, the calendars , etc etc.. and it really gives such a false sense of security and it's still always going to be 50/50. That's what dh can't get over with me.. he just keeps saying how could you not grasp that it's 50/50, you really just assumed it would work and it would just be a girl? And sadly, yes, I did!!! I guess somewhere in the back of my mind I think well maybe, just maybe they'll say girl at the next U/S.. I'm trying not to read anymore stories about all the people that happened to and just hope the time from now till then passes quickly so I can have my confirmation and move on for now. I have literally spent hours finding those stories and looking at their mistaken gender pics. When I think of all the things I could be doing with that time it's so sad. Plus the energy as my dh would say, is just not positive :( My boys are best friends and still super young, so a third boy will fit seamlessly in with them. It's the future that is hard for me to kind of grasp and feel okay about. But 4 kids is a lot more then 3 in so many aspects. And to push for a fourth knowing that it kind of throws the entire family balance off in so many ways just seems like it's not fair of me. My dh and mom keep saying just embrace the baby that's coming and then think about it, you are still pregnant and you are trying to just rush through this baby. Which is true. And so sad to think of the little one inside not getting embraced and loved as he should. I know we are so so lucky to have healthy babies and have been able to get pregnant fairly easily. I know it's not comforting to you at the moment since it still means the loss of the daughter you won't have. But once your little guy comes you know it will be amazing and you will love him so much. I really wish for both of us that the U/S could have been wrong. But, since it is way more likely it wasn't I hope that the gd gets easier for you before his arrival. I think it's good to have found out ahead of time. It was the worst feeling to have a baby placed in your arms that is yours and is healthy and perfect and be sad about it. It happened to me with DS2 and I vowed that I would never do that again. And DS2 of course is just the most incredible little guy ever. I wouldn't want him to be any different now after meeting him. And your little guy will be just as special!!! Hang in there. Seems like we are only a few days off for due dates. Definitely keep me posted on your 20 week U/S.

Just wanted to update you on my 20 week ultlasound. It is for sure another BOY!! Since my 16  week scan, I wasted 4 weeks hoping the previous ultrasound was wrong but it wasn't. I am having another boy and I have to accept it. I cried my eyes out when it was confirmed and was angry that I could never have the daughter I had prayed for my whole life. I had some pretty dark moments and then like a switch, it's over. I am now looking forward to my new little man. I imagine how tiny and sweet he is going to be and I picture him in my arms and it gives me joy. i'm not going to pretend that I am not sad about not having a girl because that is not true. But I can't live my life on being depressed about what I don't have rather than enjoying what I do have. my truth is that I am having a third boy and even though i never imagined  that this would be my life, it is. I know I'll have good moments and bad ones. Moments when I'll see a little girl and my heart will break but for now I am only going to focus on my reality, my boys. I need to focus only on that and not on this dream that unfortunately was never was meant to be for me. I hope you get the little girl you are dreaming of and if not, I hope you too can accept another little boy.  i pray  for everyone out there and pray that they have healthy pregnancies and babies. Good luck! Keep me posted on your results :)