is it just me or is anyone else freaked out

it could very well be that its because this will be my 4th (and final) baby, and that i have a 3 year old that I am chasing around all day and the fact that i have all day morning sickness, oh and that I am 35  but this whole have another baby thing seemed so much easier in my head then it is actually going for me...i never felt so scared to have a child before..i feel so sick i cannot imagine i could take care of another kid..I feel so bad in fact if given an option to go back 6 weeks and change my mind i feel like i would..i hate that i feel this way, its so confusing cuz i wanted it so badly. im hoping once the sickness and tiredness goes away my mood will change...does anyone else feel like i do

HI Tara

ME!!!!!!!   Thank you for being so Honest!!! I could have written your post too. I am 10 weeks pregnant and having huge regrets.

We have a DD and a DS and I relaly wish i had of stuck to that.  I was so clucky after my son was born. He was the perfect bub and so easy... My daughter was hard work and I never felt clucky after her... anyway I thought maybe I wanted another. I talked husband into it... he only wanted 2 kids. I started swaying for a girl because my DD wants a sister and I'd love another daughter....I became obsessed with the swaying thing. it was the only challenge in my life and something to focus my time and energy on. But the month we tried, DH and I had an arguement and hardly DTD, and timing for a girl went out the door. We DTD twice after 5 days abstinence( sways boy) then BAM I got pregnant straight away...The Moment I got pregnant I started having regrets. regardless if this is a boy or girl I knew I didnt want it. I spoke to my DH about having an abortion while it was still easy to do.. (we can take the pill form in OZ up to 9 weeks.) He really didnt want me to do it and I knew I'd have regrets about ending a life that we had worked hard to make. I then decided that if I had a miscarriage that I would okay with that. But it looks like this bean wants to be on board.

I'm tired and sick every day, DH has been going away for work and my DD is 3 and my DS is 11 months and I am chasing him around the house all day. I know this is the decision I've made and I have to stick to it. I'm hoping once the morning sickness goes I will feel better too.

BEST OF LUCK to us both... how many weeks are you? are you finding out gender?

This wasnt a planned pregnancy but I had planned on swaying for my ds a brother and I feel like u guys now, that Im not being grateful for the kids I have.

I'm feeling a bit freaked out too tbh.  I have two special need kids 13yrs and 3yrs, the 13 year old is being a complete stroppy bugger and the 3 year old is just pure hard work.  I thought it would take months and months if not years for me to conceive due to my pcos, but I fell first month after only once DTD.  It took me and DH completely by suprise.  I thought I'd have a bit more time to adjust to the idea.  I'm just setting up a new business, I started college in september, and we're bang smack in the middle of trying to sell out house.  I never thought it would happen this quick, and now it has I feel wrong for feeling stressed about it.  I'm only 6 weeks today, but I've had terrible morning sickness for the last week, I'm exhausted, the pregnancy hormones have started my back problems off already so I'm not sleeping, and I am so so ratty.  I know I am ratty, I can tell I'm short tempered but I just can't stop myself, I'm so argumentative, I wasn't like this last time.  I've developed what I can only descrive as acne over my face, neck and shoulders which is getting me down.  I just now don't feel I have the energy to do everything I'm supposed to be doing, and between you and me, I'm feeling really scared about how I'm going to cope this time with a new baby, plus 2 special needs kids, who will both be on school holidays shortly after beany is due and DH is going to be working all the time.  I'm wondering what on earth we were thinking when we changed out minds and decided to TTC.  Don't get me wrong, it's a bit exciting, but at the same time, practically no one knows I'm pregnant, as we planned on announcing after having a 16 week sexing scan.  So I feel like crap, I'm tired, sick, feeling pretty useless and can't even turn to our family and friends for support as no one knows.  It's a double edged sword, if I tell my MIL she will bend over backwards to help, but then she also will not give me any personal space at all as she know's I'm high risk of mc so last time she was stuck to me like a limpit and I felt crowded.

 There's so many women out there desperate to conceive that I feel like a total and utter cow moaning about conceiving so easily.  I dunno, I just feel so stressed. xx

I am not exactly sure how far along i am, my cycle was irregular due to a very early Miscarriage last month, i had never gotten a period when i fell pregnant again, im going to best guess that i am 7 weeks pregnant, we are going to find out gender..I have 2 boys and 1 girl, and i don't have a gender prefrence...either would be fine with me...my cousin reminded me yesterday that I ALWAYS feel like this my first trimester...soo sick and overwhelmed that i feel like i made a mistake...lol..guess my brain blocks that stuff out once my babies get here...i do love love my children..but i hate being this sick...i have night sickness too so i get no relief..we sure will have our hands full..but i just know at the end of this Journey i will be very happy...i just have to be reminded that i won't always feel this tired...and sick , its such a helpless , hopeless feeling, i wouldnt' wish it on anyone....best of luck you as well, hope you get your little girl

I'm feeling the same way! I really wanted this fourth and final baby. But now I don't know if I can handle it. My youngest is 18 months old and he's having some issues that are hard for me to deal with. I've felt worse this pregnancy than ever. Usually I breeze right through with no prob... Not this time! I am still so tired. I have fibromyalgia which usually goes into remission during pregnancy.... Has all three other times. This time it's worse and I'm so tired I can barely function. I keep thinking....I can't handle my life right now. How am I going to do this with an infant too? I think i would have waited longer to get pregnant if I really thought about it..... But my husband started changing his mind about a fourth baby and I was in desperate mode... Do it now or I may never get another chance! And then I think what if I'm going through all this for another boy?!?! Not that I won't love him.... But you know! I wonder all the time if this was a big mistake. I'm sure I won't feel this way even further into the pregnancy... Let alone after I have baby. I'm just so overwhelmed! Glad to know I'm not the only one! I feel guilty cuz I pushed for this baby and now I feel this way.

Rachel are you finding out gender? Did you sway? what was your BD frequency and timing?

I feel exactly like you do. I didnt really know if I wanted 3 or not. But DH was saying he wanted a vasectomy one day and then the next he was saying he's have a 3rd.... so I do feel like the decision was a bit rushed. as soon as I got pregnant I knew I didnt want a 3rd. I have a girl and a boy already and our family feels perfect the way it is. Its balanced. I consider terminating the pregnancy at 5 weeks because the procedure was easy here in australia at early stages of pregnancy.... And I wish I had of , but deep down I didnt have the balls and wondered if I would regret it.

I swayed for a girl, but our timing wasnt the best because we didnt BD every day because DH and i had a fight and DTD every day wasnt appropriate. so we only had 5 days abstinence, then 2 days in a row DTD which was 2 days before ovulation. I believe this combination was high sperm count which sways boys.... I feel it was really going to be our last month trying because DH's feelings were getting stronger about not having a third. But I convinced him to try again that you relaly can sway the odds for a Girl.

I feel totally disconnected from this pregnancy. I think I will feel better if its a girl, but at the moment I am convienced its a boy. I did the Interlligender test at 10 weeks and got a boy result. I know i will love the baby when it comes out but right now all I feel is this has been a huge mistake and i feel incredibley guilt for talking my husband into this when I wasnt even sure this is what I wanted?

To make things worse a lady I know has a GIRL, BOY, BOY and swayed for a Girl for her fourth.... She just had another boy.

Honey... I actually have an early gender scan this Saturday. I'll be almost 17 weeks. I'm so nervous about it. I feel like if it's a girl I'll be so fine. I've actually always wanted four kids.. Two girls and two boys. But if it's a boy....I feel like its just not worth it. If someone told me for sure I would have a boy I don't think I would have even considered doing this... At least not now. But theres a chance it could be a girl and I didn't want to lose that chance forever if Dh really stuck to not having anymore! I was swaying okay for the two months before but the month I got pregnant I was out of town and not doing very much. We were dtd every other day... Not what your supposed to do! I think it ended up being about a two day cut off and O+12. Dh was wearing briefs...I was doing okay on supps...I had no cm at all... Def not ewcm. So I hope that was enough! I'm so nervous about Saturday. I'm almost dreading it. I did intelligender with my last son and it was right. But I was too nervous to do it this time. I didn't want it to say boy but i didn't want it to say girl and get my hopes up if it was wrong. But I've seen it be wrong lots of times for other people.... You might still get a girl. When do you find out?

I feel the same. before I started swaying I saw some pyschics. I wanted someone to predict if I had another baby what would I have. None of them wanted to predict the gender. My thought are along the same lines. if i knew I'd ahve another boy for sure I wouldnt have tried for another one. I know i'm done after having this bub. I love my baby boy to pieces but I could only handle 2 boys. they are so active!

I know timing is whats freaking me out too. I wish I had done long abstinence all my other sway factors were good I think. my saving grace at the moment is fertility friend charts. there are so many girl pregnancys which were 2,3,4,5,6 days abstinence, on or before ovulation. nothing in particular sticks out the most. I know with my DD we didnt BD every day. it was more like every 3 days.

cant wait to hear what your having. I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed for you. I am going to find out. so I can prepare myself and my daughter if its another boy. I'm only 11 weeks so 5 weeks to go, but hoping to get a good guess at 13 week scan

 

You are not alone....I am freaken out that this is my 5th child and scared to death.....For one I dont have anything since my youngest is 4 years old and at first we were done having children but then my hubby had a change of heart....Two, this is my first son and just having a different gender has me nervous. I afraid of changing him LOL I know its crazy but for 11 years all I have known is girls bits so this is all new to me....Third, he has made my preganancy diffiicult from the get go and to be honest I can not go through this again so I know for sure that he is our last one.....I am sure that once he is here all my fears and my nerves will calm down....=D

i am only 5 weeks but i have been freaked out since the test was pos. i had decided that i didnt want another baby if it wasnt a boy. i had decided that it wouldnt be a boy bc dh diidnt want to sway too. so i called an made an appt for a tubal. 2 days later i was late for af and the test was so pos there was no mistaking it. now i have to try and not spend my whole pregnancy wanting a boy and being open to whatever happens. i was doing the diet 95% and taking supps and stuff, but it was all stuff i needed to do for my conditions anyway. I didnt get to time it or wait till i was o'ing right after a full moon, or use egg whites. i feel cheated. i am sure it will be a girl. and i cant find out for 10 or 11 more weeks. that is more than 2 months! on top of that this is my 5th kid. i cant do this. i cant even take care of the ones i have as well as i would like to. the only thing that makes me feel better is knowing that the best thing i ever gave my kids was each other.

Honeyrose, rachel and everyone else. I am not pregnant yet, but unti lrecently I thought I would be very soon. Ihad planned my sway and everything. My dd then weaned off the breast and all of a sudden.... I am having 2nd thoughts about going for anohter one. I have a little boy and a little girl with my husband right now. I also have my lovely older son, almost 10 years old from a previous relationship.

I always wanted 2 girls, but is that a reason to go for another baby...? Do I really want 4 kids? We wouldnt even fit into a normal car anymore. Financially no problem. DH really wants another child, he doesnt care about gender. I think.... do I really want to be the mum of 3 boys??? and just one girl? Right now , at least I have the one girl and it looks like a little pigeon pair (the little ones) which people think of as perfect, they tell me all the time. I love my sons and know I would love anohter son, its just... DO I WANT HIM if I can make a choice? Do I really want another child or do I just hope to satisfy my dream of having 2 daughters, that might not even come true?

I really hope you all get your desired gender. You know that once they have arrived, you will love them with all your hearts xx

Nini

If I had the choice all over again I wouldnt have a 3rd baby... the whole gender swaying thing has consumed my life for the last 6 months. Looking around me now, the house is filthy, dishes are not done, washing is piling up, bills are unpaid and gardens are untidy. My relationship with my husband is suffering and I have become a very distant person in conversations. I spend most of my time on gender swaying sites and it has become a real addiction - like taking a drug.

I'm clearly depressed and I know had I have made the decision to just have 2 kids my life right now would be very different. i like you, wanted another daughter. I always wanted a sister and unfortunately i have projected these feelings onto my daughter.... I dont think she would have cared less if she never had a sister, except I kept talking about it. I have now gone and made the situation worse by having a third.... which I think is going to be a boy anyway because my timing and frequency of bding was not good timing.

I'm glad my honesty has opened your eyes to what could lay ahead, but please dont prevent you from trying if you really want another bub. I would only suggest anyone goes into gender swaying with being able to accept not getting their desired gender.

Looking back, I feel like an idiot, and I think really it was all about the challenge.... I'm a stay at home mum and really didnt have much interesting things to focus on, this was something that occupied my time and was challenging to me.... I wish I had taken more time to think about it first. Its not like a project I can throw the towel in on, or a car I didnt like which I could sell, This is real and a life changing decision.

Honey..... Me too as far as the not getting anything done. I can't keep up with anything. I've had depression for years. Usually during pregnancy it gets better but I am so depressed this time. Between that and sheer exhaustion I can't hardly get off the couch! And I home school so this is not going well! Let alone anything else... Laundry dishes house ect. Or taking a shower and leaving the house for that matter. Maybe we will both get our girls and we will magically feel better! =) ya know what though? No matter what we have and no matter how bad it is right now.... I'm sure a year from now we will both say we wouldn't trade our family or lives for anything! Funny how a new baby always makes that happen!

Jwoww.... Five kids is a lot! LOL but you'll be just fine. As soon as that little mommas boy is born it will be just as natural as your girls. And as far as changing... It's easier! Not nearly as many crevices for things to go into... Just lift and wipe! LOL