Have doubts an adopted child can do well?

Read this! :)

http://townhall.com/columnists/monacharen/2011/10/11/steve_jobs_unwanted_child

Thank you for posting this; it's a beautiful reminder of the grace of adoption and the love it represents all around. I thought your thread was about something else, though--have those who have adopted in part out of Gender Disappointment, presumably after biological children, found that adoption has "cured" their GD? I wonder if the GD stems more from wanting purely to raise a child, any child, of the desired gender, or whether it also has something to do with seeing oneself realized, genetically, in the right-gender child. For instance, moms who want girls because they want to transmit their own feminine traits, or who want boys because they want to see their own characters or their husbands' passed down to a male child. I guess I have a question: what happens to the GD post-adoption?

devochki4:

I thought your thread was about something else, though--have those who have adopted in part out of Gender Disappointment, presumably after biological children, found that adoption has "cured" their GD?

 

Ooooooh, that is easy! I can tell you all about that!!! I adopted Abigayle to "cure" my GD! I can tell you 100000000% that she not only CURED my GD (and my family's GD for a sister) but she made me a better person, better mother, better wife, better everything. She rounded out our family and opened us up to a world of dolls, bows, dresses, love, hope, faith and all things AMAZING.

My GD has been gone since her and anyone who knows me on this board can tell you I wanted boys after her, and have only gotten girls LOL. I am holing out hope to adopt one more boy and we are done.

Oh, and yes, I wanted a girly girl and I got one, but I can tell you if she was not, I would adore her anyway, she brings so much fun and so much goodness no matter who/what she is :)

Eightin08, you have been such an inspiration to me throughout this whole process.  I have been gone for a bit due to adjusting to our latest little one born back in June.  I still hold out hope that someday I will get to bring home our little girl to also cure my GD, my family's GD for a sister, and to make me a better mother, wife, and better everything.  I just can't get rid of my daughters clothes and toys because in my heart I'm not ready to throw in the towel on this dream.  Thanks for reminding me that this can be done. 

You gotta have HOPE and then be ready to ACT on it! I know you have it in you. Keep your eye on that "prize"!! You can do it,  you really can.

can't give you the numbers to lottery tickets or promise you wealth, good health and happiness. But I can say that adopting a daughter IS within your reach!

hi can i just say what a wonderful thing you have all done for those children both myself and my older brother (not related by blood) were adopted in to a wonderful family they were so honest right from the start that we were adopted. god knows where we would have ended up if it wasnt for my mum and dad. i certainly dont think that i would be the ambitious person i am today if it werent for them. xxx