How do I prepare my three year old....

for the fact that she may be having a baby sister instead of a baby brother?

She has an older sister and has been praying for months for a baby brother.  When we told her that she was going to be a big sister, she was so thrilled!  All she talks about is her baby brother in mommy's tummy.  I have mentioned to her a few times that the baby in my tummy may be a girl, but she tells me that it is a boy.  I am only 9 weeks right now, but this poor child is going to be crushed if this baby is in fact a girl (which I think it may be).

I wouldn't be so sure that it IS a girl.  I have found that sometimes the best predictors of an unborn child's sex is the sibblings of the unborn baby.  My son kept saying that we were having a boy my whole 2nd pregnancy, even though we tried to convince him that we really "wanted" a girl.  He was right.  Again, for my currant pregnancy, he kept saying it was going to be a girl and that was "confirmed" by U/S 8 weeks ago. 

Either way, I would keep talking to your daughter about the baby to come and keep it always positive.  Most likely she won't be dissappointed regardless of a boy or girl, Children her age love the little babies so  much, I can only imagine that she'll try to be a "little mommy" to him or her.

Good luck!!!

Children have a remarkable ability to adapt. Yes, she may really want a baby brother, but she will still love her baby sister, if that's what she gets. When she talks about her baby brother in mommy's tummy, gently remind her that it might be her baby sister in there. She may seem upset, but you need to be honest with her that you don't know the baby's gender at this point. Your daughter probably knows that you really want a son, and she may want this baby to be a boy just to make you happy. It's important for you to make sure that she knows that you would love another baby girl just as much as a baby boy. Otherwise, you'll be teaching her that boys are better than girls and are more deserving of your love.

I know you have a long way to go until your ultrasound. Believe me, I know how hard it is to wait. Good luck!

~Roxanne
Mom to six boys and two girls.