EGD: PLEASE STOP HERE IF YOUR DISAPPOINTMENT IS EXTREME

Let me tell you, the pain of this child being another boy disappears. The sorrow of not having a daughter doesn't.......I'm even planning on having another child, may going High tech or on a diet. I can't cope with the fact i'm not having a girl. I'm willing to try again. And again maybe.....

yes, that is so true. I just dont know "how many times to try"...as i think i do have my limit of the number of children, thats the problem.

ofcourse! same here. You can't keep on having baby's....But all I ask myself is WHY???? and WHY NOT??? Why does it has to be this way? I'm sure that #4 will be a girl?? it must be...what is nature doing wrong with me? I'm used to get what I want, and I want a daughter, so I'm going to get it......But it costs so much money to go high tech...and a diet doesn't give me 100% ensurance. I want a daughter and I dont care what it takes!!!!!!!!!!

I wish I had 30 posts--I will try to get my post count up to get access to this forum. I love my 4 daughters dearly but I cannot for the life of me get rid of this yearning to have a boy. It brings me near tears daily. I feel this is extreme because I'm even trying to talk my husband into doing donor egg IVF with PGD (I'm 45; our youngest 2 girls--TWINS--are 3 going on 4) in order to have a son. He doesn't want a fifth, and doesn't think it's ethical...but I know he doesn't want me to be grieving for the rest of my life, either. I feel so, so guilty--4 healthy, wonderful, happy children-what is wrong with me? But yet the feeling just gets worse with every passing month. I know our family is not complete yet...

devochki4:

I wish I had 30 posts--I will try to get my post count up to get access to this forum. I love my 4 daughters dearly but I cannot for the life of me get rid of this yearning to have a boy. It brings me near tears daily. I feel this is extreme because I'm even trying to talk my husband into doing donor egg IVF with PGD (I'm 45; our youngest 2 girls--TWINS--are 3 going on 4) in order to have a son. He doesn't want a fifth, and doesn't think it's ethical...but I know he doesn't want me to be grieving for the rest of my life, either. I feel so, so guilty--4 healthy, wonderful, happy children-what is wrong with me? But yet the feeling just gets worse with every passing month. I know our family is not complete yet...

 

yes i so undestand, you are not ungrateful! i am just opposite, 3 boys, i long so much for a girl, and i know you must in the same way for a boy...can i ask you when did you start having kids? Me 1st boy at my 31 years. Now i am 34 waiting my 3rd boy...i do not know will i still have strenght for 4th child, to risk and sway, to give a chance, i dont know...hugs...

LittleBee, you are so kind to reply. We started trying to have kids when I was 35--we got married when I was 32, wanted to wait until DH finished his MBA and I my PhD (stupid in retrospect). We got pg naturally but miscarried very very early, and then our first was born via IVF when I was two months shy of 37. Second at 38, and third/fourth took a bit longer--I was 41.5 when they were born. Twins are hard and so honestly although I have been dreaming of our boy non-stop, I could only dare to broach the subject with DH very recently. I know he is very torn and wants to be very responsible/conservative, but also wants to make me happy. So yes, I wish we'd started early, and I wish I'd met dh earlier! Believe me, my girls will be raised differently than I was--they already know that you need to be thinking about and preparing to make a strong and happy marriage and family throughout your life (god knows what I spent my twenties doing). I hope you enjoy every blessing with your 3rd beautiful boy, that you and your dh come to the right decision for you about adding on further, and that if you want her to, that your girl child will come! Thank you for your warmth and support!

devochki4

I know what you are going through! although I'm younger (34) but my husband will not go beyond 4 children. So this is my last chance. And he's really easygoing, but he doesn't understand why I can;t be happy with my 3 boys and enjoy them! On the other hand he wants to make me happy no matter what it takes! He thinks he has failed because he didn't give me the girl I want so badly...

littlebee3:

juffertje:

One month ago gave birth to my boy #3........Thought I could not love him. i went trough a hell of a GD, i even considerd abortion. I even stood on top of the stairs to get rid of this child inside me. Cryed for days, I didn't get out of bed. But now he's born I love him to death! i'm not sorry for him beiing born. I'm not sad for him beiing my son. But still........girl around me make me sad! I hate women with daughters....I'm so jealous! Here I am, with 3 precious boys who I adore. Still there's a hole in my heart that isn't filled. I wonder why God gave me 3 boys. There must be a reason why I don't have a girl.......

i feel so much with you, havent gave birth yet to my 3rd boy, but i feel so same with your thoughts...just a big hug....i am thinking about adopting a girl in the future.  Hug....

You women are so lucky i always wanted a family of boys, God gave me a family of girls, lol funny how things turn out

 Hey,

I also have 3 boys, still waiting to know if #4 will be a girl. Before having the boys, I just couldn't understand this big fuss about hoping for genders, and even paying thousands of dollars to choose a gender. But after having 3 of the same gender, I completely understand.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you 

And remember, boys are very protective of their mother

 

take care

xx

JoannaK hope you will hear girl! Did you sway for any of your boys, or for your last pregnancy? Thanks for sharing your experience. Boys truly are gift, it is just some part of the heart missing always, when there is no girl, thats all....good luck!

 Hey littlebee3,

No swaying at all for any of the boys, but with each boy, I know I DTD just before, or on ovulation day.

 

This time around, we didn't do anything at all. I'm truly amazed at how committed people are here to their swaying theories!

 

But, if this bub is a girl, I may be the ONLY person whom the Shettles method worked for! Because we DTD once about 6 days before I know I ovulated, and stopped completely after that, so we were flawed that we were even pregnant at all!

 

Hi JoannaK,

Seriouisly 6 days ahead!!! That is crazy!
Just wondering why you think you are the only shettles success story?  Or, hope to be!

When do you know for sure????
Very exciting!

 Hi Hi,

Well this pregnancy was a surprise, we were going to start trying for a girl THIS month! And after reading up, I thought the Shettles method had been proved wrong, so I've suffered a HUGE shock with people guessing that I may be having a girl this time!!

 

And if it is a girl, I think Shettles has worked for me, this was a huge surprise of a pregnancy, since we stopped DTD a WEEK before I know I ovulated.

 

two weeks EXACTLY today until I find out... I've decided to look at as many OTHER scans as possible to guess their gender, and I've banned myself from looking at my own!!

I have 30 posts now! Can someone please sign me up for the extreme board, before I do something stupid (for us), like alienate my dh by pressuring him to have a 5th???

Still I didn't get an answer to this forum!!! I'm starting to believe you can't get in...it doesn't exist...