Boy Blues

Hi I have a 4 yr old daughter and a very wild, crazy all boy 2 yr old son who likes to take his clothes off,climb out of his car seat(yes he can un-buckle it)and stand naked in the back of my Suburban waving at the police officer next to me at the light!!! I just put him in pre school a couple a days a week to catch a break. Im 12 wks preg and high risk so Im at the doc office constantly and he screams to go outside and of course removes his clothing!! WHY?? I love him to pieces and at the end of the day enjoy remenising of what he had accomplished that day and cant imagine  him any other way. I took the stupid baby gentor test and it told me boy at 6 wks.I cant  stop crying Im praying that its wrong.The thought of another boy like my son tires me. I felt so guilty for feeling this way. Its nice to see some other moms dissapointed also. Although Im still holding out for Molly Dee!!Id love to give my daughter a sister and let my son be his unique self. 

 

You are not alone, I have conflicting results re boy and girl, I have been deperate for a girl for years only to be devistated that there is a possibility it is another boy. For a week now I have done nothing but cry, feel hopeless and wonder how I will cope. Of course you end up feeling guilty because people make comments like 'at least it's healthy', 'some people cant have children' etc, this is true and I know but it does not make me feel any better.

I am hanging on hope currently that maybe the boy result is wrong and essentially that is all you can do, there is a good possibility the BGM result is wrong, your odds are near 50/50 at this stage. I know it is along time to wait, I mean until your ultrasound, but that may give you the news you wish for (like me).

Be kind to your self. I wish you all the 'girl' luck in the world.

HOPE 

Tiffany,

Take it from me that not all boys are like your son. Every child has their own personality, and while boys TEND to be more active than girls, not all of them are.

I hope that preschool will help your son learn to control his wild impulses, for your sake as well as his! Some children do like to remove their clothing, but your best bet is to deal with it calmly and not make a big fuss over it. Your son may just enjoy watching the reaction that he gets, so when he stops getting attention for it, he should do it less often.

As far as the car seat issue is concerned, you need to make a big deal out of it. If he removes his straps again, you really need to pull over and give him heck over it. I have been in too many accidents where using car seats and seat belts kept my children safe, and I'm a big advocate of using them every time you get in the car. My sixth child tested me not too long ago. He took off his seat belt while we were driving through military family housing (speed limit of 15 mph), and when I yelled at him to put it back on, he said no and refused to do it. I let my car coast to about 5 mph, then I hit the brakes hard. Even at that slow speed, William was thrown out of his seat. He wasn't hurt, but he was scared, and it made him realize why I insist on seat belts.

As you can probably see from this forum, BGM is not very accurate. Just throw away the results and wait for your ultrasound. I hope you get your girl!

Hugs,
Roxanne
Mom to six boys and two girls.

Thanks for the encouragement!I really needed it today. Hopefully Ill post soon that BGM is wrong!!

Hi Roxanne

Sorry you are feeling disappointed but I would echo what Roxanne said - all children are different personalities. BGM could be wrong, but even if it is a boy he could behave like an angel! Might even calm your little boy down to have a brother around.

Best of luck - I hope it all works out for you either way.

 

Hey Tiffany,

I agree.  I have three boys and all are completely different (even though they are all active).  Best wishes on your u/s- pink dust! 

Claire

Those were my exact same thoughts -- my first two DS are 180 degrees different.  DS#1 was an angel and we just thought we were awesome parents, LOL!  Why don't other people's children behave as beautifully as our perfect child, we wondered smugly. We shall have another.  Then along came DS#2, and whammy!  He was everywhere, he was into everything!  A little blue-eyed blond-haired lesson in humility for us. ;-)

Another thought .... you could have a DD that was difficult too!  With a baby, there are never any guarantees about anything, as much as we try to make it otherwise.

Hugs to you, Maureen

~~~~ Moms plan, God laughs ~~~~

I feel for you with this wild blessing you have in your son, but all children are different ....I know my two boys could not be more different! One will sit and read books while the other plays basketball in the family room naked! At least they are entertaining!  Take a breath and enjoy the baby growing inside of you-he or she is unique and special and I am so excited for you to meet them!

 

All my love,

Danielle