God MUST be punishing you???? why r some pple sooo rude

Last night I was asking DH if he told his co-workers about expecting a second DD or not? he said yes of course and I bought a big box of cholclate and told them to pray that the baby and my wife be healthy and safe after delievry, so he went on to say that there was that man that said " OH MY GOD YOU ARE GETTING A NOTHER GIRL, God must be punishing you, what did you do in LIFE?"

why are some people sooo rude and ignorant, why cant He be nice and congrats my husband for getting another joy in his life, and I am sure 100% that my DH is happy and he says that he is blessed to have another daughter,

I said what did you say? My DH said NOTHING, he said he is ignorant why should i waste my breath and energy with an ignorant man. 

I am sooo pissed and really mad, I wish someone would say that to me oh my God, they will be dealing with the wrong person.

i just feel really bad for DH i am sure he is gonna here much more comments than that later on. even his mother was disppointed when she heard it was a girl, she said "OH SO NO BOY THIS TIME" why is she doing that and ohhhhh hear this now she wants to name the baby girl after her, which I HATE SOO MUCH, but DH agreed and I cant say anything, I cried sooo much yesterday, because inside of me I am sooo happy to give DD1 a sister and I am sure they will need each other late in life, but because people are leaving us alone, they are not convinced we are happy they just think NO YOU MUST BE MAD AND UPSET AND HATE YOUR LIFE,

sorry just need a place to vent.

I'm sorry... People can be so ignorant.

DH's friend said that to me the other day.  Apparently, men are not blessed with daughters.  Only cursed.  It frustrates me, too, especially because DH is the one who is happier with daughters than I am but everyone thinks this must be such a blight on his life to be without a son (so far).  Unfortunately, you will hear this more and more, especially as your daughters get older and resemble women more than babies.  Sorry.

GRR!

i think TBH you get this sort of comment anyway no matter what gender you have

I have 4 boys and a baby Girl and tonight was shopping some lady said to me OMG 5 kids you are Glutten for punishment arent you!

so i said oh no i think id feel punished if i didnt have any as ive always wanted a large family and that shut her right up

i then went on to tell her im pregnant again and her face was like

  people are just ignorant!

Yes, everyone has a comment, be it about boys or girls, or too few or too many kids.  People just love to have opinions!  lol

Don't let others make you feel badly about your family.  It is great!  And it only matters what *you* think about it.  :)

GZ

 Omg hun, please don't take any heed by what any idiots say, some people are just totally ignorant! Also, please don't name this baby after DH's mother if you don't like the name, you should pick a name you really really love, and I'm sorry, if he's told her the baby is having her name he'll just have to sort it, or maybe the baby can have his mother's name for a middle name or something! I think two little girls sounds absolutely gorgeous and as a mum of one wee boy with a second son on the way, I can assure people are just as rude about two boys as two girls (I've heard things like they will be great birth control as I definitely won't want anymore after two boys, it's soooo frustrating). 

Think your DH did the right thing by staying quiet btw, why justify stupid people with any sort of answer! 

I seriously have come to the conclusion that it does not matter what you have in life . SOme idiot will always put a negative spin on it. After years of feeling like boys were the booby prize . I met a woman who had three girls and her husband gets the same crap about girls that I get about boys.

But what really sealed the deal for me is when we moved to this really great house. It was in a really sought after beautiful area. I was happy that at least something worked out for me . My good friend asked me how I liked my house . I said it was nice. SHe then proceded to say "Well you know your not at the center of everything anymore." I was stunned. My new house was clearly better than my old one in every way but yet she still found something negative to say. From then on I  just knew I would never have anything perfect enough to avoid the negative comments.

DOn't cry. People like to put others down to lift themselves up.

 I know I'm about to freak some people out but here goes, when people tell me that God is punishing me for ANYTHING I look at them and tell them I don't believe in God. I know your not supposed to do that but it certainly shuts them up.  If you believe in god, go home and ask for forgiveness, and you'll be fine, if you don't this method should be just fine for you! 

How rude!

God doesn't punish anyone. There's a reason why you got another girl, and it's not a bad reason either. You may be disappointed (if you are) now, but later on you'll know why you are blessed with a girl and will be thankful

I believe there are no Gods or reasons.  Things just are.

GZ

JJ89:

God doesn't punish anyone. There's a reason why you got another girl, and it's not a bad reason either. You may be disappointed (if you are) now, but later on you'll know why you are blessed with a girl and will be thankful

thank you for all your responeses, I am not disspointed at all for having  a girl i am disappointed at how people are reacting to something we are happy and thrilled to have. I was also shocked at myself,  when i heared girl I was truly inside of me sooo happy, to the point that i start doubting my feelings for having a girl then a boy, I start asking my self whey did i even think about swaying why did i want a boy, is it because DH wants one? NO actually he does not care as long as the baby is healthy, he has a very sick cousin where he was born that way and he used to live with him, so he really asks about the health before anything.

So Why did I sway for a boy, or why did I want one. and the shocking answer, Was because there are no boys in DH's family and I wanted to be the first to have one? that is really a stupid reason, is that a good enough reaseon to go through all the harship we face during swaying (PH, diet, timing, excersising, etc...)

we are soo happy to have a second DD, I am sure my two daughters are gonna thank God and us for having each other, I have a sister and I cant think my life without her, we get prego together we got married 5  months apart, we go to vacations together, our DH's are good friends. it is just a blessing to have her.

Well now, I have time to actually think about WHY do I want a boy next? and I better come up with a good reason or otherwise I am really confused and dont know what I want in life.

But ladies you are soo supportive and I am really lucky to have you here, enjoy your kids what ever genders you have. they are a blessing From God,

Since I wasn't really thrilled about this baby being a boy I told everyone via test message and about half of them responded "I'm sorry". It's one thing for people on IG to do that since I have told them how I feel but for everyone to assume having another boy is a bad thing just makes everything worse. But on the up side. I do find myself already defending my little guy who I was hoping was a girl. So that must be a good sign.