Do any of you regret any part of your sway?

I just found out that I am pregnant again and already assume that it is another boy. I feel exactly the same way I did with the boys. I have been obsessing about my sway and thinking that I wouldn't feel this way if I would have just been fine with a 4 day cut-off instead of trying to get a 2 day cut-off. I ended up ovulating early and we BD on ovulation day. I also feel like we should have been more patient with the condom in the hole attempts. I feel like I rushed things a bit. I did so much research and not I feel like I blew it. I could also never get my temperatures up. I should have been more patient. I can not enjoy my pregnancy right now because I want a DD so badly and feel like I've lost my chance forever. Do any of you feel this way?

I didnt get to sway at all :( I got pregnant totally by surprise and had no sway and actually did things way more boy friendly.

I did sway and wanted to do 0+12 with abstain, I thought I ovulated, than BD next day, and day after I ovulated for real, and BD that day because I panicked and BD day after that too......My heart thinks it's a girl this time and my brain says "you are crazy, no pink for you, it's another boy".

Ever since the day DS2 was born 7 months ago I've been obsessing over our failed girl-sway.

I tracked my cycles and charted for 9 months before we TTC'd, I knew my cycles inside out, and I was ready to do a Shettles sway for a girl.

I thought I'd done my homework, researched everything I needed to.  Our last BD was 2 days before O and here we were thinking we'd "done it".  How wrong were we!?!  I keep thinking over and over that we should've started with a 4 day cut off and gradually worked closer if that failed.  We didn't change diets (in fact I didn't really know much about the diet thing), I had never heard about the moon phases either, we only relied on timing.  I now realise our diets always have been "boy friendly" so we shouldn't be at all surprised we have 2 boys, knowing what we know now.

There were also other things we (I) did wrong leading up to conceiving DS2, I had no idea these things were also "boy friendly", so I've been so cranky with myself for not knowing these things before our attempt (things like me drinking green tea every morning, taking antibiotics, using pre-seed, drinking way too much water and hardly any milk etc, DH drinking 2 cans of coke per day, energy drinks and daily coffee, etc - all SO wrong for girls, but SO right for boys!).  I have therefore obsessed over this every day since we realised we'd failed, and wish I'd researched more, been more patient, etc.

Oh well....

Best wishes to you and I truly hope you did in fact get a pink one

I think we all assume we will get the opposite of what we want if we dont do a mega sway, but why are there not more families out there with all the same gender, think of all the low life mothers who have kid after kid, dont care about health and they usually get a few of each gender, I doubt they changed their diet. Then think of all of those who swayed blue, took all the sups, bd on ovulation, dranks coffee, had orgasm, changed diet for months, even put sperm onto test tubes with eggs, used baking soda...etcetc and then they still get a girl. So what im trying to say is dont give up hope, I hope you have a girl. Im trying for a boy, but cannot sway well, I believe I will get what god intended. I always wanted a boy and now I know why god gave me a girl.

Yes I wish I had done more, had more patience ...it may not have made a difference but at least I would have felt like I tried everything and it wasn't meant to be, whereas now I feel like I gave up too early when I knew what my heart desired, I feel like I let myself down, that I had it in my grasp and had I taken more time I may have gotten my girl.

Yeah, I have a pretty strong hunch I am pregnant with DD 3 and we swayed for a boy. We did almost everything we could except my husband's testosterone levels are usually low and we should have waited to have it tested and treated because studies have shown that men with higher testosterone levels tend to have boys, so I would assume a low level would mean more girls which would make sense since we have 2!! Anyway, lost of pink dust your way! Maybe we'll both be surprised (fingers crossed!)!!

I think this is only natural. I have just found out I am having a swaying opposite and it stings. But that is the thing with swaying, it really isn't 100% and you have to be prepared for that opposite. I had issues with cysts and fibroids before trying to sway which I think rushed me somewhat, even though I did sway for 5 months, but the flip side to this was possibly not falling pregnant at all and I wanted a sibling for my son more than not being able to have another child so I just went for it and hoped it would work. I do however think I had a good sway and have seen people do far less and still get their DD. You never know, you may have your DD in there, this pregnancy was night and day from my previous DS pregnancy, no sickness the first time, constant nausea this time. Don't count on symptoms as a guideline. I wish you loads of luck

Thank you everyone for your responses. Cupcake- I hope you are right that I have my baby girl and you have your baby boy growing inside us right now. We will have to see. I guess there is still some hope. I just still can't believe how I messed the timing up so badly.

rilady:

I thought I'd done my homework, researched everything I needed to.  Our last BD was 2 days before O and here we were thinking we'd "done it".  How wrong were we!?!  I keep thinking over and over that we should've started with a 4 day cut off and gradually worked closer if that failed.  We didn't change diets (in fact I didn't really know much about the diet thing), I had never heard about the moon phases either, we only relied on timing.  I now realise our diets always have been "boy friendly" so we shouldn't be at all surprised we have 2 boys, knowing what we know now.

With my DS#2, we did just the Shettles method. We started at the outskirts of my cycle and BD on days 6,7,8,and 9. I didn't ovulate until day 14 or 15. We ended up getting pregnant that first month. I thought for sure that I was going to be having my baby girl, because the logic is that male sperm can't live that long. We never changed our pH though. You never know, even if you did a 4 day cut-off, maybe your pH wouldn't have allowed you to have a girl. I am saying this because maybe there is hope if you change your pH if you try again. You never know!

Congrats Shellie!! The only thing I regret about my sway was timing. I had a false O on the cycle I got my BFP so I thought I nailed my frequent bd'ing with a 2 day cutoff but turns out I really O'd a week later and ended up with a 1 day cutoff w/ 7 day abstain. That was the first time I had ever had a false O before. Won't be too much longer until we find out if this our girl or 3rd boy. My heart tells my it's a girl but my head says you're crazy, its a boy. We'll see soon :)

I actually feel pretty good about my sway, it wasn't perfect by any means but I'm ok with it. We had done 6 months of abstinance and O+12 attempts with no success. After much research we decided to just BD thru O. I don't believe in cut-offs as they seem to be about 50/50 girl/boy (and DS1 was concived with a long cut off by accident as we were trying to avoid pregnancy at the time). From pouring over the spreadsheets and surveys it just seemed that for those that successfully got a girl the timing was all over the place, but the 2 things that were pretty consistant with producing girls were diet, supps, ph , and lack of ewcm. So IMO timing seems to have the least affect.

GL to you, try and enjoy your pregnancy and relax. Whats done is done and hopefully its a little pink bean growing in there!!

I've had 3 failed swaying attempts...the last one being so hard core DH was ready to walk out the door whenever I mentioned BD...lol

After I got pg, I thought we "nailed it" for sure...that is until 9 mo later when DS3 was born.

Now the only thing I "regret" about my sway is wasting all of that time, energy, effort and deluding myself that it would make any difference whatsoever.  I wish I had a closer spacing with my kids but we wasted a year swaying!

Honestly, there are so many women here who do nothing and get girls, do boy factors and get girls, have boy sways and still make girls....its only LUCK if you succeed...not how many days cut off or if you ate potato chips.

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MyDreamBabi:

After I got pg, I thought we "nailed it" for sure...that is until 9 mo later when DS3 was born.

Now the only thing I "regret" about my sway is wasting all of that time, energy, effort and deluding myself that it would make any difference whatsoever. 

 I totally agree.  I was obsessed with charting, peeing on OPK's pinpointing O to the minute, analysing past cycles, planning which days we needed to BD...in the end it was a complete waste of time & effort!  I got my hopes up, all based on that stupid Shettles book, and as others have now pointed out, timing actually seems to have very little to do with swaying, it seems more success comes from altering PH, decreasing EWCM, etc.

I guess at least now failing has helped me learn more, see where we really did go wrong, and maybe, just maybe if we TTC #3 one day, I'll have a far better idea on what to do.  And most of all, I wont go getting my hopes up or deluding myself that just because we tried, its actually going to work!

But to the OP, as others have so rightly pointed out, don't give up hope yet, and don't base any assumptions on feeling the same symtoms either, my 2 boy pregnancies had quite different symptoms but they were both boys.  I've also had friends who've had very similar pregnancies, and ended up with different genders.  So there is still hope!!!!  Best wishes!

you dont know u may have a good chance my sway was just a practice and was less then perfect because we didn't want to conceive...we did...and it worked.