Awarness

 Hello, I'm new here and some of you may know my post as I am suffering from Extreme GD. I know this sounds a cowardice attempt but I am going to write some people like Oprah, Dr. Phill and the Doctors, I will take more suggestions of shows!  I personally won't go on television but I think it would be great for these shows to get it out there that this happens and it is severe. Maybe it can help women who can't find this forum or have computers, or help prevent this or prepare people who have extreme ideas, or help one understand that didn't know they would feel this way. I'm sure it happens to men to you know? Get it out there in the OB offices in the same way they have signs up about postpartum depression. This is serious, and the type of thing people suffer with and hide. And we think about postpartum women who have hurt their babies, some of this might be from GD and then they hurt their babies which is postpartum but maybe they weren't looking for the right issue. 

I never heard of it, didn't know other people felt this way I was screaming inside. I found this forum. Some people won't. I don't know. Maybe I'm grasping and hoping it will help me to help others, I know I don't want to be alone in this...

 

I would love to see GD and EGD discussed openly in the public sphere.

Although, get ready for a lot of controversy and bashing afterwards!!!  lol

GZ

 That part is true, but who cares if it can help someone you know? I personally openly expect people to criticize me and think I am a monster for it. I think I am a monster. However I know not everyone can be prepared for that. 

I think this is a great idea and have thought this myself, there is not enough awareness of gd and there should be! I think the majority of people who criticise it actually dont know anything about it and just see it as ungreatful. I for one have severe issues with not having a girl and I bottle it all up, one day I think I am actually going to explode. But I do not have any issues with having 4 boys (kwim). I am more than greatful for what I do have I am just struggling to deal with what I dont. Its like having the perfect pair of shoes but having no dress to go with them lol.

 

x nicola x:

I think this is a great idea and have thought this myself, there is not enough awareness of gd and there should be! I think the majority of people who criticise it actually dont know anything about it and just see it as ungreatful. I for one have severe issues with not having a girl and I bottle it all up, one day I think I am actually going to explode. But I do not have any issues with having 4 boys (kwim). I am more than greatful for what I do have I am just struggling to deal with what I dont. Its like having the perfect pair of shoes but having no dress to go with them lol.

Funny analogy! It does help a bit to bring some humor to such a bad thing, right or wrong laughter is good medicine. 

I would love to see this topic discussed on a talk show.  There will be a lot of people who don't understand though and think mother's are ungrateful for not accepting the baby right away because of GD which can cause a lot of controversy.  It is necessary to be open about it because it can really ruin someone's life since it's a kind of depression.  Maybe woman can find out good ways to cope with GD etc.  I like your effort and please keep us posted if you hear back from anyone on those talk shows.  :)

I thought about this often, like it should be on shows for awareness. But, I don't think the general public accepts it or would care to hear about GD as most people (generally speaking, you understand) think that good health is the upmost important aspect when expecting a baby. Unless a person has personally went thru GD, it's not something that will be understood or sympathsized with. Most shows would never allow a topic w/ such a (possible) small audience.

And it's one of those conditions where you can talk about it, cry about it, and relate to people about it, but there's not a SURE ACTIVE way to go about fixing it. Dr. Phil will have guests on that are in abusive relationships; he advises them to leave. People who have marriage problems, he recommends counseling. People with GD, there's nothing you can do. Maybe this is another reason it's not on talk shows?

 

 I think it can be more than that. It will help people be aware of someone else struggling with it. I've actualy been exposed to a small few people who understand that have not had GD. My girlfriend was raped by three men, and she struggles with something its hard to explain. She thinks that she stinks, like physically smells bad. She constantly sprays herself with perfumes, and lotions herself down, she evens puts lotion in her hair, and the day starts out normal but as it goes on she gets worse and keeps applying and applying and asking if she thinks. I told her it was because she hasn't delt with the rape and that she feels dirty so she is trying to cover it up with fragrance. She listened but I'm just a person. Well guess what she called me crying one day and said there was girl just like her on Dr. Phill and that I was right and she thought I was just being silly. Its helped her and is helping her to know other people suffer, and to hear it from the mouths of a professional as well. 

What I'm saying though is there is hope for it to be featured! Bcz they featured that and it only effects a small amount of people! 

There isn't a sure active way of fixing abuse by leaving though, yes leave them but then find out why you enter abusive relationships, maybe its that past. Same with GD, maybe its a control thing bcz you've lost control. There are several factors to any mental/emotional issue that people need to know, and Physicians need to deal with. Ultrasound techs should be taught to read the signs! Ask a few questions and maybe give out the pamplet, explaining GD the severity of it, and offering where in that particular community you could go for help, a universal pamplet with a little spot to for a local counseling center or to contact your OB or just something like that. Truthfully there is no cure for postpartum either but its widly spoke about. And it should be bcz just as you are all telling me the hormones do not help! 

This is a great idea - I actually tried to find out how to send Oprah ideas for her show because I feel the same way - that there are probably so many more women out there suffering from GD but nobody knows it because it is SO taboo to talk about it. Of course we are all grateful for our healthy children. OF COURSE WE ARE!!!! GD is something completely separate from the love we have for our children. I love my boys more than life itself, but I admit that i am also someone who suffers from what I would say is very severe GD, and it is not because I have two boys, it is because I don't have a daughter as well. I think it would be good to make other people aware of it as well, so they don't make insensitive comments without even thinking about it. (For example, I just got a baby gift for my 4 month old DS2 and the card said, May you have lots of love, hugs, and MEDS - and may God give you strength..... and then the girl said to me, "with two boys, you're going to need it!"... and then she reiterated the medication part.... AAAACK!) Yup, people need to be made aware....... and other women with GD should know that they are not alone...... Please keep us posted on what you find out!

It's a nice idea, in theory, but I just can't see it turning out well...maybe that's the pessimist in me, but I can see the producers putting this awful spin on it, and then there's always the people that edit the show. You know they can make things look a certain way.

Classic_Movie_Queen:

It's a nice idea, in theory, but I just can't see it turning out well...maybe that's the pessimist in me, but I can see the producers putting this awful spin on it, and then there's always the people that edit the show. You know they can make things look a certain way.

Totally agree.  The only people that understand GD are the ones that have experienced it.  The negative side of it is WAY more exciting and I am almost positive that that's what side they will play up.  And they will stock the audience with women who can't conceive at all and they will rip the GDers a new one and get mounds of applause for doing it....or maybe that's the pessimist in ME...

I could be wrong, but didn't Dr. Phil once do a show on gd/gs?

 I won't go too into detail..but Harpo studios (Oprah) just called back another friend of mine on another forum...(it was for something else, but they are thinking of focusing on gender disappointment. (She has 5 all one gender and just found out she is pg again).

 

ETA: More like Gender Desire for her. She seems very happy with her family but oh so dearly wants the opposite gender.

 OMG I've been thinking the exact same thing. For me, I'd want to see people get the word out so that maybe people would be a little more sensitive about it. Like, maybe if people were more aware then they wouldn't go around saying such hurtful things to moms who have several of one gender. I think GD is kinda like PPD. You know, before it was brought to light that it was a real medical problem, there were many many people out there who brushed it off as "baby blues" or whatever, or thought a woman with PPD was being ungrateful having given birth to a baby and should be happy, joyful, etc. No one asks for PPD and no one asks for GD and to me they are really in the same realm. There needs to be real awareness I think. 

that would be really nice, but I'm just afraid they would put a bad spin on it like the elle writer did.