If you were me what will you do am so confused

Hi ladies as writing to you because iam so confused here is my story iam pregnant with child number 3 i have 2 girls and this will be our first boy. im 38 weeks pregnant today. i gave birth to first child after 16hours in labour and 10 cm dilated but they had to preform emergecny c-section, my 2nd girl came 3 years after her sister by natural birth and 7 hours labour but they had to vacume the baby due to baby sitting in posterior postion so they had to cut me i ended up with 16 stiches.

Now my problem and what am confused about during my last visit to the hospital the doctor told me i stile have the option to do c-section for my third child for the last 3 days baby movment have been decreased by almost 60% i went and checked every day at the birth unit where i could hear ladies next room were in labour and they were screaming i was almost gona cry ...my baby heart rate havnt been stable been going up and down they have no idea why, iam so worried and confused this Friday i wil be going to the hospital for the weekly checkup the Dr told me they might do internal checkup which might bring on labour .

My mind going crazy at the moment if you were in my place will you go and chose c-section so the baby will come safe and you wont go thru labour pain ... or will you wait and have natural birth .

 For me to have c-section means i have to stay in hospital for 5 days and my husband only going to take 1 weeks of and my kids have to go stay over my family home am worried about them so much i do every thing for my girls they both attend school but i always like to do their homework with them and make everything for them ...also am worried about how long will it take me till i heal completely and i can look after the kids and the house.

And if i go natural am worried the Dr told me i might tear and i had bad experince with that also this baby might be sitting in posterior which makes labour way to painful

 

am so sorry for all this but as i wrote iam confused and this coming Friday i have to tell them what i want. plz help me iam blind and my head going blank

 

Getting the baby here safely is the most important thing right now..having 5 csections myself I know it's not so bad to recover..make sure u accept all the help offers you get..taking the risk of tearing and having the baby in distress will only make you worry more that things can go wrong..if I were u I would opt for the c section to alleviate all the worry you have now..good luck with every thing hope all goes well :) and don't worry you'll still be able to do your girls homework w them it just might have to be in your bedroom for a few days.. My hubby can only take a few days off for me this time..so I'm going to be in the same boat come oct...And I've got 4 young boys to manage...hoping my 21yr old will help me tho :/

 Wow sorry to hear you have such decisions to have to try and make. If it was me i would opt for the c-section as it sounds like baby may not be too happy. Plus if baby is in the wrong position chances are you may go into labour and end up having a c-section anyway. Maybe talk with your doctor they will know about how baby is ding and what would be best for you and baby.

Wishing you a happy and healthy labour.

 I've had 3 c-sections and each one got easier. The second two were planned and went very smoothly.  Didn't actually go into labor with the first, but wasn't planning for a c-section either.  So, I was scared going in since I wasn't even planning for an epidural.  It ended up going just fine.  The sooner you get up and moving, the faster you will heal.  I went home with DS3 after 2 1/2 days since he and I were doing well (I had him Friday morning and I checked out Sunday afternoon).  I might choose to stay longer next time, just to have some extra quiet time.  However, the quiet time was starting to drive me nuts and I was bored and missing my other boys and DH (it was during that whole H1N1 thing and they weren't letting any kids in to visit at all in the hospital). I kind of regret not being able to ever have a vaginal birth, but having healthy babies is MUCH more important.  The c-sections never really prevented me from bonding early with baby, either.  The key is to move around as much as you can, but stop if you feel pain or tired.  So, lots of short walks around your room and house when you get home.  Also, don't be afraid to take the pain medication they offer - it really helps you get moving faster.  Talk to your doctor and choose what you think will be best for you and your baby.

happylife i would totally have the csection! i did vaginal with first born and omg i never ever ever want to do that again - 23 hours of hell and then 16 stitched in my bottom b/c i pushed him out so hard. my 2nd child was sideways so i was forced to schedule a c-section and then i had another one 5 years ago. the 2nd surgery was super easy to recover from and all those pain pills were fabulous too!! i swear i had post traumatic syndrome after my horrible labor....i admit it, i am a wuss. mentally/emotionally i am made of steel....but i am the biggest baby when it comes to being the least bit physically uncomfortable! avoid the pain, girl and enjoy the percocet 

It's such a hard thing to choose. Is it policy to keep you 5 days after a c-section? I don't know why they would but of course I dot know where you are from. In Texas we can choose to induce or csection one week before your due date. I personally would choose vaginal birth that's induced. Recovery is quicker typically and you can get a spinal or epidural ASAP instead of waiting to go natural and going through pain if you don't want to. I was induced both times once by medical necessity once by choice. My second birth was extremely uncomfortable and my pelvis was separated but I also choose to not have any pain medication. Bad choice on my part. If you don't plan in more children then maybe csection is better for you, should you decide to it may cause problems with scar tissue and you will likely have another one. Again just some things to think about. I'm sorry you are in a tough spot and I hope your little boy gets here safe and sound!

thank you so much ladies for your words i went to the hospital today they booked me for next Tuesday to do c section am very happy hopefully baby wont start the natural labour the house spot less everything cleaned kids put to school bus chocolates bought for my visitors lol I am ready and went for waxing hehe that's all i could think of oh judt have to attach baby car seat i cant stop thinking of the minute i will see my son

Good for you :)) good luck with everything ...