It would be nice to not be judged about GD. I thought this was a safe place to express. People are taking gender dissapointment to far? ..This is a gender disappointment sub-fourm.
I agree. I think there is enough judging out there in the world, by people who think they have the right to tell you how much GD is appropriate and when things have gone too far.
I mean, if you 'go too far' how exactly are you supposed to rein in feelings that you don't actually want ANY part of in the first place? I certainly never expected to experience GD, it never occurred to me that there was even such a thing. And then it hit me like a freight train, I would have done anything to get out from under that black cloud. I hid it as best I could and the first thing I did after my gender ultrasound was ring my friend overseas who has three boys and I said "I know about your secret club, I am in the club now and all around me I see others who are probably in it as well, its like they have a light on their heads". She laughed and said "yep". She had never expressed that to me before and as a mother of one child before that I would never have thought to ask. I was thrilled that my first child was a boy so I never experienced GD till my second son.
I was very grateful for my fertility, I was very grateful to be a mother and have a healthy baby. Gratitude and GD are not mutually exclusive, never have been, never will be. I absolutely adore my DS2, he is the apple of my eye, we all love him to bits, he is very spoilt! My GD wasn't about him, it was about her, the one who WASN'T coming.
To be honest, I think if people say anything negative about someone expressing GD they honestly haven't experienced it. All the people I know who have walked in those shoes show nothing but kindness and empathy and patience. People might think they know what it is, but really, until you have experienced that confusion, that emptiness, that feeling of being punched, the mask you wear in public and the tears you release in private, the fear of being judged, then nope, you might have experienced some brief disappointment about what other people want for you but you haven't felt the full force of GD or you would NEVER judge. NEVER.