Hi Hope 1212,
I have had some pretty rough days lately! I was feeling so much better and now I can't seem to get over this sadness. Mostly, I have severe guilt for: not fully enjoying this pregnancy because it's not was I really wanted; looking ahead at different options of how I may one day have a DD instead of focusing on the baby I am having - almost as if I am waiting for the big prize and he is just a bump on the road to get there; feeeling as though he took away my last chance of having a girl; loosing my faith that there is a God because how can God not know how deeply I prayed for a daughter. So many dark moments that I feel as if I'm drowning. The thing is what upsets me is truly not that I am having another boy but that I will never have a daughter! that kills me and for that, I feel sadness/anger over this pregnancy.
I would love to do high tech in attempting to finally get my little girl but dh just truly doesn't want anymore children. I am one of 4 so I am used to having a big family but the truth is that financially we can't afford it. On top of that, I have miserable pregnancies and physically I feel my body has had enough. i've always had a bad back and being pregnant is SO painful. There are days that I can't even walk. On top of that, I get a lot of pressure on my cervix and I feel like I am in labor every day. Of course I would put my body to whatever it takes to get that girl (lol) but hubby is just not on board. When we met, he never wanted to have children. I had DS1 from a previous marriage. He was very accepting of ds1 (who was 4 at the time) and knew that we were a package deal. However, we agreed that we would have no more children. as time went on, my desire for having more kids diminished and I was thankful that I at least had the opportunity to be a mom once. 4 years later, we had a HUGE shock and became pregnant with ds2. we were not planning him but then the enormous desire for my little girl hit hard. When the baby was born, dh fell head over heals for him! this current baby was our last chance for that girl.
I just turned 33 years old 3 weeks ago and already feel so old and tired. probably because i started early with ds1(I was only 22). I'm kind of done with having kids too.
Anyway, thanks for being my therapist lol! I feel like you and all the moms who are going through the same thing are the only ones that truly understand me. I can't imagine saying all these things to other people without someone judging me or thinking i'm a monster.
I hope you are feeling better and write back anytime you need to talk :) I know we are going to have good days and bads so let's just pray for mmore good. When is your due date? Mine is 5/28. I've had both my boys at 39 weeks so I suspect this LO will come earlier than due date too!