Honeyrose, thanks for your honesty. It is really refreshing. I get the boredom factor. I am currently staying at home with my dd and thought I would do for a while and just get the 4th baby over and done with. However, funnily enough around the same time I stopped breastfeeding (I had been pregnant or breastfeeding non stop for 3 years!) my ex-boss approached me saying he mgiht have an interesting offer part time (or at least flexible hours) and I am suddenly seeing myself back in shape, leaving the house in the mornings well dressed, looking and feeling good, having some sort of a career, a housekeeper to do the stuff I absolutey hate, doh.... my kids will start playschool in September 2012, they are my little pigeon pair, close in age, I think of all the hobbies and holidays we can do in just a few years down the line.... and all of a sudden I am seeing life beyond swaying and having babies. LIke yourself, this whole swaying thing took over my life after I found out ds2 was just that - another boy - this is like 2.5 years ago!!!. I was successful in my sway... or was I? Maybe it was sheer coincidence. Anyway, what makes me think I would just have another girl again, swaying is maybe nothing. It is a challenge and it is something to keep yourself busy though, you can become obsessed easily.
Like Rachel says, you 2 might both just have girls and feel great in the end. Maybe you will hear boy and suffer gd, but its not too bad either once they are here, trust me, I have done it before. I do strongly believe that Rachel is right, you will never be able to trade in your child once s/he is here.
My sister-in-law has the same decision to make, like you, honeyrose, she has one daughter aged 3 and one son, almost a year old. She doesnt have the age benefit I have (I am almost 32, she is 36) so she needs to make up her mind within the next year whether or not to have another one and I think she is currently thinking to hold off ... She doesnt have a gender preference at all (lucky her), but she is just exhausted LOL.
Rachel, I am thinking of you Saturday, come back to update us. Hope your baby is healthy first of all. We are here for you to talk xx