I guess I am not meant to have a son.....

MyDreamBabi:

My husband has what *he* wants, over and over and over again.  He is perfectly content with his family and it has been a daily struggle trying to get him to see my point of view with ttc a daughter

 I feel your pain with this.  My DH has no desire to try again.  He just says we'd have 5 boys and I'd still be sad.  He won't even try though.  When I try to explain to him how I feel he says, "Why is your desire to have a daughter more important than my desire to not have any more children?"  I see his point and that just makes me even more sad because I know he's right.  The chances are still only 50/50 and with my luck we'd have a beautiful baby boy (which is ok too), but knowing what I know now I'd just like to try.  He even says he reminds me every day there won't be more because if he forgets to remind me then I might take that as a sign he's not sure he's done and he is. Sorry to go OT, but I can relate to this so well.

bummingover#2:

there is still something to be said about the gift that you've already given your husband/partner, the bond between a father and his son(s)...and this is where I think I'm struggling the most. 

Uuuugggh!  I'll never ever get that whole "give your husband a son" line .  But that's a whole different post   Anyway, I know MANY! men who have stronger bonds with their daughters than they do their sons.  I truly believe this is just yet another stereotype. Sometimes the son you/they envisage is nothing like what you thought.  I spent my youth fishing, hiking, going to rugby games with my Dad and we are as close as you can get.  My DH didn't do a thing with his.  I know you are disappointed for yourself, but please don't be for your parents or DH.  The "gift" you are giving them is equally amazing, boy or girl.  My parents have 5 granddaughters and no grandsons but I sincerely believe they are 100 million percent happy!

bummingover#2:

My daughter and I are also very close, we do all of the mother/daughter things and I am now having these feelings of not wanting to share that bond with another girl. That sounds so incredibly awful to even type...ugh. 

Believe me, you will share that bond with DD2 whether you like it or not !!  My little DD2 came into this world and swept the rug out from underneath me.  Our bond is stronger in many ways than with DD1.  Also, at 2 she's already outside every night playing golf or soccer with Daddy too.

Watching the bond develop between sisters (or brothers) is the most amazing thing ever.  If you had told me I would have 3 daughters and no sons I'm not sure I would have even had one!  But not a day goes by when they don't make me smile (and make me cry) as I see the sweet little things they do for each other, watch the silly games they play together and hear their little girl giggles.  That said, DD1 & DD2 are currently beating the crap out of each other!!!

 You and your DH both sound lovely.  Give it time and you wont even remember what this felt like or imagine a world without your 2 girls in it.  Good Luck xxx