notice the trend?

SparklePlenty:

I never said I didn't want people to talk and be excited bout their babies, I think i specifically said that a few posts up on this thread. Talk about your daughter to be all you like!  I want to hear about your pink nursery, your ruffly dresses, your princess parties, just

 i had a thread like this in the dec board.. stats on girl / boys in a month is HARD on many ladies.. I was wrong in putitng it up ..it WAS insensitive of me.. ( this is how I feel about it now.. ) if this thread is "wrong or insensitive is up to those viewing it and posting it".. it is their right to take it this or that way..

My buddy board means a lot to me.. the ladies there are amazing and the fact taht I DID drive many amazing ladies having beautiful blue bundles away hurts me.. it was not my intent.. but in the end.. it was my doing.. 

I agree that even though this is NOT a GD board.. that it should be treated with a level of sensitivity.. can you post a thread about your LO boy or girl? yes of course.. but stats hurt. they just do.. it is slap in the face because it brings up " why couldn't I have been on the other end of that stat" how could someone who swayed and didn't get their desired gender NOT feel this way?

take a cue from someone who regrets a post horribly.. and has learned ( and still is trying to learn ) more sensitivity on these boards .. even on the cloth diaper boards or anywhere .. we should still show sensitivity... 

No worries, my dear, we're all learning. Every day if we're lucky! Judging by a couple earlier posts, I think we februaries are on a more even keel now.

Oh, and I wil post shower pics if folks are interested. i just have to get them from the hostess...

  Take a deep breath, everyone. I'm glad to see this post turning around and everyone coming back together- please keep it coming. There was no bad intent on either poster, but personal attacks hurt either way, and as PP said, stats can hurt. I think it was mostly the "praying and swaying" that  stung, as not everyone got what they prayed and swayed for- which is okay. Just hard when you read it and know that it didn't help that you did and didn't get it. I think we can all understand that. We all have a hard time, and Sparkle was just trying to have a simple reminder, no pun intended.

I am also having a February girl.  Still can't believe it!!  I also noticed the trend of lots of girls at the same time!

Now that i read through this thread, I feel dumb for what i wrote.  For what it's worth, I have been on the other end many times and was the lone wolf (or so it seemed) having the boy when so many others were having a girl.

 Im from the other side ...I wanted a boy and having a girl .again...so Im not happy at all.

It's kinda like when you see someone who did not sway or do anything but get what they whised for and you worked so hard and still didn't get it.

Even if your not jealous it leaves a bitter taste in your mouth...so to say.

I would be so happy to switch with someone  who is having a boy

Blessed, omg your boys are adorable!!! Congrats on your DD coming in Feb! Not so far away is it? We are going to TTC#1 in Feb.! 

Sparkle, I am a bit envious of you, I understand this is your first child? I hope my first is a boy. Lucky duck! 

jessicaann:

.............. are we seriously fighting over this girls? calm down the attitudes for real, i'm not from this board but come on...

Since you specifically stated that you're not from this board, I don't know where you fit into the "we" aspect of things.

So why would you come in with YOUR attitude and tell people how they should be reacting? This is a board full of hormone riddled women who have all been hoping and ferevently trying to get the gender that they want and if they didn't they're just trying to handle it the best they can. People were working out their feelings just fine without your negative input and it seems to me that you went out of your way to be disrespectful and rude about a sensitive situation that doesn't even involve you.
I believe they call that "unnecessary drama" which doesn't belong on forums such as these. 
We're all adults and we can handle things without being told how to do it.
So far the only post here that I feel is inappropriate is yours.

That being said, I think that the girl who was so upset that she felt she had to take a break/leave before she said something she regrets, was probably right in her decision because I feel she took Sparkle's post and ran in the complete opposite direction with it. Maybe she's more sensitive than others and couldn't just take it for what it was, but I didn't see any reason to be so upset that someone would need to leave the board.

I completely understand Blessed's excitement about all the girls and I also understand Sparkle's request for the consideration of others.
I believe that most of us are here because we were really hoping and trying for one gender or another and there's lots of us who didn't get what we wanted. While i'm not suggesting that anyone walk on eggshells I do agree that some level of sensitivity when posting is nice and I'm sure that everyone can appreciate that no matter what side of the fence we're on. I don't feel that the original post lacked sensitivity, she was simply excited to share a fact and Sparkle's response just may have come out less like a reminder than she intended.

I wasn't even going to say anything about this, because I understood both sides and figured that Blessed and Sparkle would come to an understanding, and it seems they have. Granted, the understanding may not have even needed to be found, were it not for the sensitive poster who got upset.
However, I found it much harder to remain silent when someone who isn't from our board came in and tried to tell people how to handle their feelings. It was completely unnecessary, rude and disrespectful toward every person who has contributed to this thread for the purpose of discussing the actual topic(s) at hand.

clearwater:

jessicaann:

.............. are we seriously fighting over this girls? calm down the attitudes for real, i'm not from this board but come on...

Since you specifically stated that you're not from this board, I don't know where you fit into the "we" aspect of things.

So why would you come in with YOUR attitude and tell people how they should be reacting? This is a board full of hormone riddled women who have all been hoping to get the gender that they want and if they didn't they're just trying to handle it the best they can. People were working out their feelings just fine without your negative input and it seems to me that you went out of your way to be disrespectful and rude about a sensitive situation that doesn't even involve you.
I believe they call that "unnecessary drama" which doesn't belong on forums such as these. 
We're all adults and we can handle things without being told how to do it.
So far the only post here that I feel is inappropriate is yours.

okay. anyone who knows me, which you clearly dont, knows that the LAST thing i am is "disrespectful and rude."

but i will be disrespectful and rude when i say--oh, bite me.

jessicaann:

clearwater:

jessicaann:

.............. are we seriously fighting over this girls? calm down the attitudes for real, i'm not from this board but come on...

Since you specifically stated that you're not from this board, I don't know where you fit into the "we" aspect of things.

So why would you come in with YOUR attitude and tell people how they should be reacting? This is a board full of hormone riddled women who have all been hoping to get the gender that they want and if they didn't they're just trying to handle it the best they can. People were working out their feelings just fine without your negative input and it seems to me that you went out of your way to be disrespectful and rude about a sensitive situation that doesn't even involve you.
I believe they call that "unnecessary drama" which doesn't belong on forums such as these. 
We're all adults and we can handle things without being told how to do it.
So far the only post here that I feel is inappropriate is yours.

 

okay. anyone who knows me, which you clearly dont, knows that the LAST thing i am is "disrespectful and rude."

but i will be disrespectful and rude when i say--oh, bite me.

And i'll say, thanks for making my point.

 Crystal I believe Jessica didn't mean it in a negative way, and many women who are on this board know her all over the DDB forums, not just one specific one- she's known to travel and visit and support everyone. The issue has already calmed down and everyone is feeling better from the sound of it. Sparkle and Blessed worked it out and I think everyone was comfortable again. I'm sorry the post struck you wrong, but to post after everything has already settled and to dash it again is only going to rail up the DDB again. It's okay for other DDB in other months to go visit their friends on other boards, or to give input when it's needed. Yes, it did come off harshly, but the reality was that it wasn't intended to come off that way- just as the rest of the posts weren't.

So please, let's play nice, okay? There's no need to get everyone hurt again. We all understand Blessed's excitement, and found where the hurt was coming from, and it was solved.

clearwater:

And i'll say, thanks for making my point.

hahahahhahahaha okay girl

ps sorry kacey i know youre gonna read this eventually but i really couldn't help it 

so glad i stayed out of this one !!  maybe someone can just delete the whole post and we can all start again fresh having learned from this lesson??!!

erin