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Hi everyone, I just found this site after googling Gender Disappointment. I have a 14 month old son who I adore and am pregnant with baby 2. We are coming up on our gender scan and my stress level is increasing the closer we get. I wanted a son more than anything last time, but this time I would love to have a girl. I almost feel offended at my own statement because I love my son so much and would never trade him for a girl, it's just that I want one this time. I worry that I will react badly if I here "It's a boy" in two weeks even though I'm trying to prepare myself. I have names for each gender picked and ready. My question is this...If you thought you would be upset with one gender over another, do you think it'd be best to find out the gender while pregnant to give yourself time or to wait to find out? Thanks!!!

With my first 2 I wanted to know the gender to prepare and be ready.  After my 3rd boy I really had no desire to know in advance, but my dh did, so we always found out.  With DS #4 I really didn't want to know. I wanted to hold on to the possibility it was a girl for as long as possible, even though I "knew" he was a boy.

I always say find out but thats just me. I suffered ppd pretty bad after ds2 and I had no preference with him. Then I had ds3 and was devasted but it gave me time to get over it before he was born and I don't think if I found out in the delivery room I would have been able to cope after. It would've been ugly. Really ugly! But then there are some who think it's best to not find out since once you hold your baby you fall in love which yes is true and would've happened for me too but I would hate to ruin the birth of a child of mine IYKWIM. I cried right there on the ultrasound table and would hate myself if I did that at birth. IDK, for me I had to find out but everyone is different.

 Oh goodness, I had nightmares not even pertaining to babies, and anxiety attacks starting about a week before my scan. I had a feeling I was going to be dissapointed but kept trying to prepare myself for the worse in case. That really didn't help me as I've pretty much had a totatl meltdown over it, I'm a wreck right now. 

For me personally I think its better to know now than later to hopefully heal in some time, if thats even possible for me. But that is not the case for everyone. You know you more than anyone else. 

My DF's mom didn't know what she was having before birth because they didn't have ultrasound. She had one boy and was ready for a girl. She did in fact cry when he came out a boy. She was devastated and not ready to hold him. Further she went on to dress him like a girl sometimes anyways!  Hindsight kinda funny! She does love him now but she sadly doesn't have the same bond with him that she does her first son. But he doesn't think to much of it, he actually just found out this week, when talking about my EGD and she told him she cried when he was born. He is honestly not grieving but found it shocking he said "Well mom, I just don't know how to feel about that, do I laugh or get mad!" He had however previously known she dressed him like a girl . 

 

You might find this thread about delivery room surprises useful: http://www.in-gender.com/cs/forums/p/93131/880335.aspx

I personally would definitely find out. But I am a control freak, so I just have to know beforehand, plus it would give me time to reconcile myself with the baby's gender.