Mom's with all one gender that are content....please advise

I would really like to hear from ladies on her that have all one gender and are perfectly happy. I myself had that at one point I had 2 girls up until 8 months ago and I was perfectly happy, in fact I was proud. I did not have a yearning for a boy at all. When this suprise pregnancy came about and I found out it was another girl, it sent me down a road of extreme GD that I didn't even know I could have. Like I said I never felt this way about my previous pregnancies, because DD1 was my first child I didn't care what she was, and when I found out DD2 was a girl I was happy to have the pair that would grow up as best friends. However, for another woman that having 2 girls may have caused that woman GD, so I realize it is all in our perspectives.  But now I want a boy so badly it makes me angry, I dread the comments, the looks, the sighs, the sympathy. I have chosen to lie to my family that we don't know what were having, so I am dreading their reactions when she is born (I am truly suffering from boughts of anxiety). 

 However, back to my question I want to know what makes some of you out there happy with the fact that you have all of one gender. I really want to get over this and I know if I can find a way to love the idea of  3 girls then I will be okay. I remember when I was pregnant with my second DD and there were some people out there that would make a comment, like "another girl" but it didn't bother me because well, yes, I wanted "another girl." So I think what bothers me more than anything is other peoples' pity for me or disapproval of another "boring girl" (not to mention the fact that this time I do want a boy), but if I can learn to love the idea of having all of one gender then I don't think I will suffer as much. Does that make sense? Any suggestions?

HI THERE I HAVE 3 BOYS , I AM 40 YEARS OLD AND EXPECTING MY LAST BABY APRIL 2010, I REALLY DONT MIND WHAT I AM HAVING TBH , I WOULD LUV A GIRL BUT I WD ALSO LUV A BOY, IVE NEVER THRU ANY OF MY PREGNANCIES MINDED ONE WAY OR THE OTHER, I LUV MY 3 BOYS DEARLY THEY ALL GET ON GREAT, I HAVE NO YEARNING FOR ONE MORE THAN THE OTHER MY OTHER BOYS SAY WE WANT ANOTHER BROTHER IM DESPERATE TOO FIND OUT THO WHAT I AM HAVING BUT DONT THINK I WOULD EVER MISS NOT HAVING BOTH GENDERS, I THINK YOU JUST ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE IN THE END ONE WAY OF ANOTHER I ALWAYS THOUGHT THIS TIME I WD REALLY BE WANTING A GIRL BUT IM JUST THINKIN IM 40 AND WANT A HEALTHY BABY , I THINK IN TIME U WILL BE FINE I THINK LITTLE GIRLS ARE SOOOOOOOO GORGEOUS AND I THINK BOYS ARE GR8 TOO DONT EVER WORRY ABOUT OTHERS DISSAPROVAL THAT DOESNT MATTER WHAT MATTERS IS YOUR LOVELY CHILDREN I THINK ONCE SHE COMES ALONG U WILL BE OVERJOYED AND ALL YOUR FEARS AND DOUBTS WILL GO ALSO WHEN U SEE HOW YOUR OTHER 2 LUV THERE LITTLE SIS AND WATCH THEM ALL GRO UP TOGETHER AS FRIENDS AND SISTERS AND ALL YOR GIRLS TIME TOGETHER IT WILL BE ALL WORTH IT GOOD LUCK DARLIN XXXXXXXXXXXXXX

I felt a bit like you... was happy wit whatever gender while pregnant the 3rd time maybe because I hadn't considered it would be another ds too much, never found out the sex was delighted when he arrived and was a healthy baby but had niggling thoughts about also wanting a dd to complete the family, I love him to bits, love all 3ds' with all my heart but 4 months later my sis had a dd and then i got a massive yearning for a dd too.

Here's hoping, but can only realistically have 1 more dc without jeopordising the lifestyle/ financial situation of the family. In that case if its 4ds then well yearning will prob never go away but when the time comes my ds' wives shall be getting a wee talk on the ingenderforum lol

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I feel ya.

I'm content now.  I do think you'll be in a better place once DD3 is finally here.  That's what helped me.  DS3, yes, was "another" boy when he was born, but he was also another special, sweet little soul just like his brothers.  He has his own look and his own personality.  I that lil' guy!  He is definitely falling into the endearing role of being the baby of the family.

I really do try and focus on the positives of having the same sex.  It's more economical.  Seriously, I am loving the hand-me-down aspect.  As an all-girl mom, I would think this would be a TREMENDOUS advantage since girl's clothes are much pricier.  Also, it's nice that we will be able to do "boyish" activities all together as a family and not have it be an issue (like Monster Truck Shows...  OMG, I totally had to do that a couple of weeks ago!  How dumb!! -LOL).  You'll hopefully be able to do the fun girly stuff like ballets and dance recitals all together with no conflict.  You won't be spread so thin having to plan out so many gender-specific activities. 

I also think it's "unique" to be the mom of 3 same-gendered kiddos.  You really don't see it a whole lot, KWIM?  I kind of like standing out! 

I have some FB friends who have 3 girls.  One family has the most beautiful girls.  I don't feel sorry for them.  I don't get the "vibe" that other people do either.  I think the "pity" vibe is often in our own minds.  Now that I'm in a good place, I really don't think people feel sorry for me.  I think you'll be able to move past that in time.

And besides, when you see your 3 girls together...  I think it will feel "right" to you.     

WHAT A GREAT POST XXXXXXXXX

I love having 3 boys.  There is something special about having all of one sex child......I always say "my boys"  but if you have all girls you can say "my girls".  It's mommy and her boys and I love it that way.  I want one more baby at some point, and I thought I really wanted a girl, but then I am worried , because I kind of feel special being a mom of boys.

 LOL, I love saying "my boys"!

I admit that although I am content, I do cringe when I feel like someone is pitying me. I mean, people are always going to make stupid comments and I can only hope it will get better as my boys get older (b/c you know....I still get a lot of the "are you going to try for a girl?" comments.).

The thing that happened for me was...I just felt done. I don't have a desire for a 4th child, even if it was a girl. I feel very complete with these guys, and my third isn't even here yet. And once I realized that, I had a complete change in my mindset. Once I realized "this was it"....then I realized I could choose to be upset about what I was going to miss out on, or I could choose to be grateful and happy with what I have.

Georgia~peach:

The thing that happened for me was...I just felt done. I don't have a desire for a 4th child, even if it was a girl. I feel very complete with these guys, and my third isn't even here yet. And once I realized that, I had a complete change in my mindset. Once I realized "this was it"....then I realized I could choose to be upset about what I was going to miss out on, or I could choose to be grateful and happy with what I have.

I second this Georgia Peach - at some point you get the feeling that you have the children

you want/need and then there are other things in life as well to strieve for. I felt this already with

my no 2 and it really had less to do with gender. I just wanted a second child and maybe that

made it easier to handle the GD. Of course  I know that some people out there will see my

family set up with only sons as "less" than having both genders, but with time I care less about

what others think - I am the one living my life and it counts way more how I feel about it, right?

i rarely post here on ingender anymore because i do not have gender disappointment anymore and even though i am TTC still I am not longer trying for a girl just a baby.  lets see how did i get over it.  Well one day i just realized that all of the whining in the world wasn't going to make me have a girl and all of the jealousy in the world would not change my life and all i could do was change my attitude.  that was the only thing that I had control over.  but i admit that I never had extreme gender disappointment either I always loved my boys and would not trade them for all of the girls in the world because they are my children.  god obviously decided what i would have any like i said nothing would change that.  So i guess my answer to you is it's all about your attitude.  you have no control over what sex child you have but you do have control over how you deal with it.  i think it is nice that you are having a third girl having 3 of the same sex myself I can tell you that it definately has its pluses.  tell your family to take a hike.  good luck

I have ALWAYS wanted just 2 of the same gender.  I don't know why, just seems 'tidy' to me and love that I can dress them similarly etc.

I always thought I'd have 2 girls tho, despite that I have never had GD and if I were to have another baby, I would LOVE another boy.

When I found out I was pg with DS2 I was abit shocked as I thought it was a girl and gt mostly girl guesse on here but I was just so excited that I was getting another little DS1 IYKWIM.  I was gonna have two of this beautiful, loving little boy!  And I do :)

DH would like a little girl so we might try a mild sway but the thought of just all the same gender excites me, genuinely. When I see families of all boys or all girls it seems really special and exciting to me.  Of course it doesn't make that family any more special than a mixed gender family - that's what our aim will be with DH wanting a little girl. 

Maybe I have gotten this from my mum, my mum dreamed of only 3 boy since he was a little girl - had names picked - the lot. She had 3 girls.  It was never a secret that she longed for 3 boys but it was never said in a way to offend us lol.

I also love the whole "I took the Boys..." thing, because it takes DH into account too lol

If I saw your family of 3 beautiful little girls in the street my heart would skip a beat, it would remind me of me and my sisters when we were all little

Thank you all of you so very much!!! All of your comments and suggestions were very beautiful and very true! I have not been back on here until today, that helped plenty.  I logged on today to look up the brand of vitamin D3 someone suggested to get. However, I had to stop here at this thread, and I am glad I did. Like some of you wise ladies said there is a point when you have to accept it and move on. I think I am there...almost. I say almost because I am not yet super excited about having her, but I am no longer whining and wishing. Though I know when I see her I will be over the moon. So thank you all I am glad to leave this place on a high note, instead of dwelling in the GD boards or becoming jealous over someone's U/S of a boy. If I do come back here from time to time, it will definitely be to get mommy advice and so forth. As far as my girls I can honestly say I am getting used to the idea of 3 and how much fun they will be....

with ds1 and ds2 I wasnt upset at all because I seriously thought whats the odds of #3 being a boy, well found out about ds3 and was upset but got over it bout time I left the u/s room and sat in the car looking at my 3d u/s pics, and then found out about ds4 and honestly cried all the way up to the day I delivered and he was sick, he had pnuemonia and spent 10days in the nicu, and it broke my heart the first night I saw him laying there with all kinds of tubes and wires on him and him struggling to breathe, I fell in love with him, even though I couldnt hold or feed him until he was 7days old. I wouldnt trade my 4 boys for any girl and if I could do it all over again I would want my 4boys again, I even though I cant have any more kids (tubes tied) I still have my moments and yearn and cry for that little girl,  but I feel special and proud to go in public with my boys, now that I am not pregnant, I dont get rude comments, I more get comments of awe,  "wow 4 boys, thats awesome"  "you have 4 boys? whats the odds of that? God has a special plan for you"  I get alot of attention in public thats for sure. I actually ran into a mom with 4 boys too once, and it was awesome, we had a connection that you wouldnt find with just any mom.  we need to look at it differently, there is nothing wrong with us one gender moms, we are actually very special.  gender is 50/50 its like flipping a coin, well how many people do you know that can flip heads 3 or more times in a row, or flip tails 3 or more times in a row?  we're special...

Melinda:

I get alot of attention in public thats for sure. I actually ran into a mom with 4 boys too once, and it was awesome, we had a connection that you wouldnt find with just any mom.  we need to look at it differently, there is nothing wrong with us one gender moms, we are actually very special.  gender is 50/50 its like flipping a coin, well how many people do you know that can flip heads 3 or more times in a row, or flip tails 3 or more times in a row?  we're special...

You made me tear up