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Going through IVF/PGD in hopes of my DD

An emotional journey in order to get my little girl!

Reflections

Wow. What can change in a year. Today is Easter Sunday and as we celebrate Christ's resurrection I can't help but think of what I was going through last Easter.

I remember that my Beta was supposed to be on Good Friday but because the Dr's office was closed that day I got to get it earlier. I remember thinking it is going to be a "Great" Friday! I was very wrong and instead I was in mourning. I was sad that my Beta was indeed neg. There was nothing growing inside of me. I felt so empty.

Easter Sunday I had invisioned eating with our families "glowing" with the secret of our new pregnancy and instead I was holding back tears the whole day. I got my period so I had even more reason to be reminded that I wasn't pregnant. It was so heavy that it actually bled through my outfit and I had to run home and change before Easter dinner. It was just too much for me and I cried the whole drive to my house to get another change of clothes.

I thought of the baby girl that I thought I would have at Christmas time. I thought of the money that was gone and nothing to show for it. I was in a very dark place. I tried to focus on the holiday and Jesus' suffering. He suffered so much more than me so why was I being such a baby?

This Easter I have a daughter to share the holiday with. I have a tiny pink Easter dress to put her in and take her to church. My boys have a sister and my in-laws their first granddaughter, It is amazing to know that she is here now and what I was feeling just last Easter.

I'm still in awe that she is here. I stare and her and think of how blessed we are. I believe our family is complete now and what a feeling that is. I don't have to deal with that longing in my heart for the little girl I was missing. I have her....in my arms to love and to hold. I can't thank God enough.

Last year I really focussed on Jesus' sufferings, his hardships, and it helped me so much. This year I'm focusing on the joy of his resurrection, the excitement, the thrill of life given by God.

Happy Easter!

Comments

 

Manhattan said:

What great introspectiveness. I think the journey is hard whether someone is a OHW or takes multiple tries. Perserverance and faith are sometimes hard friends to find but in them we gain our inner strength to march forward and attain our dream. I am happy for you that you have your much wanted daughter. Happy Easter and hope that everyone gets their dream soon.

April 4, 2010 10:04 AM
 

Manhattan said:

What great introspectiveness. I think the journey is hard whether someone is a OHW or takes multiple tries. Perserverance and faith are sometimes hard friends to find but in them we gain our inner strength to march forward and attain our dream. I am happy for you that you have your much wanted daughter. Happy Easter and hope that everyone gets their dream soon.

April 4, 2010 10:05 AM
 

Daisy Mae said:

This brought tears to my eyes.  Thanks for sharing. Oh, and Happy Easter!

April 4, 2010 10:09 AM
 

GreenZelda said:

Beautifully said.  Congratulations on your new baby daughter.  May she bring you and your family much happiness!!

April 4, 2010 3:14 PM
 

luv4boys said:

Thanks for sharing, I too had to focus today on the promise of the ressurection...the baby I lost was due this week and I have had two IVF cancellations recently.  But, the ladies at Jesus' death thought all hope was lost .... They really had reason to despair and yet Love Won!  He is Risen!  

April 4, 2010 3:22 PM
 

Ilovemykids said:

That was beautiful - thanks for sharing!  Happy Easter!

April 4, 2010 7:26 PM
 

Luvmyboys said:

Congrats on your daughters arrival!! Happiness!

April 6, 2010 11:19 PM
 

gsbabies said:

Thanks everyone for your comments. I'm happy that others can get encouragement through my blog!

April 7, 2010 7:22 PM
 

sadierose said:

I agree totally in how much difference a year can make.  So happy you got your DD!

April 11, 2010 10:49 PM

About gsbabies

I'm a former teacher & now stay at home mom to two ridiculously cute little boys. I am married to my best friend and have an amazing family of 4. Yet, I feel as if there is someone missing. My heart longs for my daughter.

The problem, how to get her? We spent over $20,000 on cycle #1 pgd/ivf and now I am cycling locally and doing a frozen embryo transfer.

We've said if this cycle doesn't work we were going to move forward with International adoption. I'm already 2nd guessing that plan b/c the longing to be pregnant has gotten the best of me. So, I really need to have this work so I don't have to come up with a plan b....I mean plan C.

****Update: So far Plan B is still on!!!! Baby on Board!!!!

*****Another Update: She's here!! Our family is now complete and I think about how blessed I am every single time I see her!

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