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AngelMae's hope for a daughter

Our journey through the high tech world toacheive our dream of a daughter for some balance in our family.

So high tech was not the way for us

 I have tried to figure out in my mind what to even say.. My embie did not survive the thaw.. I got the call  on Nov 13, 2008 I had just left the accupuncturist and I was feeling great.. Then I saw I had 3 missed calls and I just KNEW!!! I called the RE back and in his same tone that he used to tell me my betas went down on 1/28/08... and then again when  we lost our babies heart beat at 9.5 weeks 6/08, and now that same damn tone, that"I should probably sound like I am sorry tone, but I have been doing this so damn long I see this every day"  tone.. telling me my embie didn't make it. I don't blame him or anyone else hey that is how it worked out.. and I guess this was not the path I was supposed to travel, but I did and it led me around in circles.

I have really been thinking about adoption, but I can't shake this feeling I need to be Pregnant!!! I will be 40 in a few days, and I was supposed to have my baby girl by 1/21/09.. since we lost her.. I have been longing to be pregnant, and I just can't shake it.. yes we have a great chance to have another boy, but would that be so bad?  I want a DD with all my heart and soul, and I have the strongest feeling that I will have her, that God will bless me with my long awaited for GIRL, but that being said I do have a little pang of doubt that my dream will never come to fruition, I love babies and my 5 sons are absolutley amazing, but I want a DAUGHTER!!! I want her so badly it hurts!!!

I am taking the time to say good bye to my high tech journey and to welcome my new journey... To trust in Gods plan.. and to know that I am where I was meant to be all along.  I have faith that my dreams will come true, at some time in some way I will be blessed with my DD!

Comments

 

rather be reading said:

I am lurking (sorry! but you sound like my twin!) I love your thinking it reminds me of how I felt about having a daughter. I just knew I would have her, I just saw her in my mind and knew there was a reason that as hard as I tried to get over it, it never went away. When I finally said ok enough is enough I am having a daughter one way or another and that is that... (very familiar to what you just posted) well that is when she came. I had NO doubts then, nothing would make me think different. I didn't want to ttc I wanted to adopt, but I became pg right before my dh's vasectomy. Well, I told myself if it was boy #6 I was STILL adopting my daughter. I was getting her one way or another. I was not taking NO as an answer any more or what ifs.  I even had my adoption plan to raise the money to adopt etc...

I think if you believe it with 100% of your being, it will happen. Maybe not exactly the way you first invisioned it, but just a wonderful.

GOOD LUCK!

I turn 40 in two months! AHAHAHHAH!! I have a hard time saying it outloud

January 24, 2009 11:37 AM
 

luv4boys said:

I also have recently said Goodbye to my high-tech journey and am praying and holding fast.  I cannot tell you that "belief" is the answer as I had 100% belief in my MS journey, though I am so happy for the previous poster (gives me hope).  What I am doing is listening to what God is saying now.  I have been asking for direction on this for months and then last Sunday the author of the Shack came to my church and all I heard God say clearly to me is to re-commit myself to my family, which I am on day 2 of this.  I dont like waiting in general and I am 39 but I sometime we must quiet ourselves and listen.....

Hope your dream comes true.  

January 27, 2009 10:15 PM

About AngelMae

My husband and I have been married for 18 years, we have 5 sons and I have been praying for a daughter for as long as I can remember. My husband is wonderful and has tried many many methods to try to give me my hearts desire. when at home methods gave us DS#4 we decided to try Ericsson method this gave us DS#5 and then we started our MS/IUI journey we did this twice and right before our third try MS in VA stopped doing MS/IUI's in order to prepare for FDA approval. We turned to IVF/PGD the first attempt we had a chemical pregnancy and the second we lost our baby girl around 10 weeks, we tried for an FET, but our last embie did not survive the thaw. I am uneasy about trying naturally, afraid to go high tech again and even more afraid to live my life with out a daughter, we have decided to adopt, We have it narrowed down to domestic adoption and are working on our home study, I pray every second of the day that God will finally bless us with a little girl, and we can complete our family. Now we are complete God has answered our prayers and after only 5 months of waiting to adopt we have our little girl.

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